Tom Bolls (he/him)

PTSD affects both the mind and body, which is why I use an integrative approach to treatment. Talk therapy helps you make sense of your story and feel less alone. Body-centered therapy addresses where trauma lives in your nervous system, helping you regulate and feel safe in your body again. EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) targets the root of trauma, allowing you to reprocess painful memories and move forward with greater freedom and resilience.

Relationship struggles often stem from deeper patterns. Whether you're facing poor communication, infidelity, or a lack of intimacy, these challenges are often rooted in attachment issues formed early in life. When our needs for safety and connection go unmet, we may react with withdrawal, criticism, or fear of abandonment. In therapy, we uncover these patterns, build secure attachment, and help couples reconnect with honesty, empathy, and emotional safety.

I blend PACT, Gottman, and Imago therapies to help couples build secure, lasting bonds. PACT focuses on nervous system and attachment patterns; Gottman offers research-based tools to strengthen connection and manage conflict; and Imago helps uncover and heal childhood wounds that show up in relationships. This integrative approach fosters empathy, safety, and deep emotional connection.

PACT (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy), developed by Stan Tatkin, blends neuroscience, attachment theory, and arousal regulation to help couples create secure, lasting bonds. It focuses on how each partner’s nervous system and early experiences shape the way they connect, argue, and repair. In PACT, couples learn to become expert caretakers of each other’s emotional safety, building a relationship that is secure, resilient, and deeply attuned.

Imago Therapy, developed by Harville Hendrix, helps couples understand how early childhood experiences shape adult relationships. We’re drawn to partners who reflect unresolved wounds, which can create conflict but also offer healing. Using structured dialogue, couples learn to listen with empathy, speak without blame, and see each other with new understanding. Imago helps transform conflict into connection and builds a more conscious, loving partnership.

John Gottman’s approach to couples therapy is based on decades of research into what makes relationships succeed or fail. His Sound Relationship House model helps couples build friendship, manage conflict, and create shared meaning. Key skills include improving communication, reducing defensiveness, and increasing emotional attunement. By strengthening trust and commitment, couples can deepen intimacy and build a resilient, lasting partnership.