Tiv Adler (they/them)

Relationships can become painful when partners feel misunderstood, stuck in the same conflicts, or like they’re speaking different languages. I work with couples to slow these patterns down and help each person feel heard and understood. Together we build new ways of communicating, repair trust, and strengthen the connection that brought you together. I also support couples navigating neurodivergent differences and inter-neurotype relationships.

Many of the people I work with are autistic adults who were diagnosed or seeking support later in life or are exploring that possibility. You may have spent years masking, feeling misunderstood, or wondering why the world seems easier for others to navigate. Therapy can be a space to understand how your brain works, reduce burnout, and build a life that supports your needs rather than forcing yourself to fit expectations that were never designed for you.

Many of the people I work with are adults who discovered their ADHD later in life. You may feel like you’re constantly working harder than everyone else just to keep up, knowing what needs to get done but struggling to make it happen. Therapy can help you understand how your brain works, reduce burnout and shame, and build systems and strategies that support your strengths rather than forcing yourself into expectations that never quite fit.

Acceptance and Commitment Therapy focuses on developing a more flexible relationship with thoughts and emotions rather than trying to control or eliminate them. In our work, we practice noticing inner experiences with openness while identifying the values that matter most to you. From there, we build practical steps toward a life that feels more meaningful, aligned, and supportive of who you want to be.

My work is rooted in contemplative psychotherapy, an approach influenced by Buddhist psychology and mindfulness. At the center of this work is curiosity. Instead of trying to fix or push away difficult thoughts and emotions, we slow down and explore them with openness and interest. Through this process, we begin to understand patterns more clearly, strengthen what is already working, and develop a more compassionate and flexible relationship with your mind.

In relationship counseling I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and narrative approaches to help partners understand the emotional patterns shaping their connection. We slow down conflicts, map the stories each partner carries, and build clearer emotional communication. I also work with inter-neurotype couples, helping partners understand differences in processing, needs, and communication so they can move from confusion or blame toward curiosity, understanding, and collaboration.