I help high-achievers contending with burnout, isolation and a tendency to self-sabotage find and sustain connection, contentment and relief
Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA
Women who have been diagnosed or suspect they have ADHD fill a considerable portion of my practice. My approach is non-judgmental and direct. We explore mindsets and practices that increase productivity, while de-creasing pathology.
Most of my clients are doing the emotional and psychological work of their parents, grandparents and beyond. In other words, our healing what the healing our lineage has needed. Families pass down the good and the bad. I compare this to physical belongings, like heirlooms or unopened boxes. When the "boxes" contain habits, patterns or traits that have caused harm to or are no longer serving my clients, I support them to sort that stuff out in exchange for what heals, helps and brings happiness
"Anxiety" has become kind of a catch-all for: racing thoughts, feeling unsettled, inability to relax, worry about the future, regret for the past, and so on. I offer my clients tools to decease and diminish anxiety, while guiding them to explore what's "up" and causing anxiety to be present and recur. Awareness is the first step to change! Fear of the unknown is one of the biggest causes (and definitions) of anxiety. By exploring anxiety in a safe, supportive setting, we find relief.
Many of my clients are first or second generation citizens, or working here with a green card. Immigration/Acculturation is not usually the reason someone seeks therapy with me, but it underlies almost every conversation.
The secret sauce to good therapy is the relationship between therapist and client. This is why you've probably heard so much about "fit." For therapy to work, you need to feel safe. It's not that you'll trust your therapist right away, because trust has to be earned and built. But you'll have the sense you can share personal or vulnerable information with your therapist and they'll hold it close, with love and respect.
"Mindfulness" is a state of being aware of your internal states and surroundings, on what you're feeling and sensing, without judgement or reactivity. I draw on my background in mindfulness and contemplative practice of over 20 years, as I support clients in cultivating a more meditative, objective relationship to what they're going through. We say, "Awareness is the first step," because without being aware, we can't take the steps to improve our well-being and enhance our lives.
I invite you to take a moment now, to check in with your body. You don't need to change a thing physically, just allow your attention to shift inward as you continue to look at your phone or computer screen. What do you notice? By acknowledging and accessing our body's intelligence, therapy is much more effective and deeper than psychoanalysis alone. In our work, we will gently explore what it's like for you to be in your body, guiding you towards increased feelings of safety comfort and ease.