Tara Kubik

My main experience, as a counselor, is assisting in the healing process of Complex-PTSD. CPTSD typically involves trauma exposure during an early stage of development, over multiple/long-term incidents, and with a primary caregiver and/or impactful relationship. Symptoms that arise from unhealed trauma may include decreased self-esteem, distrust of others, feelings of hopelessness/worthlessness, relationship difficulties, struggling to be in the present moment, and feeling alone.

External attachments in childhood (i.e., with caregivers) have a profound impact on the way individuals think, express emotions, behave, and communicate in adulthood. As a trauma-informed counselor, I believe that exploring our inner system (i.e., the various "parts" of ourselves) is an important step in the healing process. In other words, learning to acknowledge, accept, and love ourselves fully creates a safe, inner attachment. This can then shine outward, in our relationships with others.

By fostering a therapeutic relationship that feels safe enough* for a client to process their trauma, the following can occur: individuals can begin to acknowledge the impact that trauma had on them, start to process and heal from such trauma, and then begin to thrive. Coping skills can be implemented, triggers and symptoms may be reduced, and healthier relationships can emerge. *When dealing with any form of trauma, the concept of safety can feel skewed. So, safe "enough" is the goal.

As an advocate for DBT, I utilize this myself, with my family, and within my professional practice. DBT is a combination of the following four modules: mindfulness (for becoming present in the moment), emotional regulation (calming techniques), distress tolerance (coping during panic/crisis), and interpersonal effectiveness (communicating well with others). Each category provides the individual with specific skills, that are actionable and can be implemented immediately.

EMDR Therapy integrates the past, present, and future to provide healing of distress that accompanies traumatic memories. (Remember: trauma includes any real or perceived threat that overwhelms an individuals ability to cope/feel safe). EMDR Therapy provides the opportunity for an individual to (re)process a past memory, while having the therapist act as an "anchor" to the present moment. Measures are taken to ensure safety and avoid re-traumatizing; calming techniques are practiced throughout.