Suzette Sable PhD, AMFT

You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship, or you left one that took everything and you're still carrying it. Maybe you're grieving someone you know wasn't good for you, and the guilt of that confusion is its own weight. I work with clients untangling attachment patterns, recovering from controlling or abusive dynamics, and learning what a healthy relationship actually feels like in their body, not just on paper. We go beyond insight into why you chose it and how to stop the cycle.

You might not have words for what happened, because it didn't happen to you. It happened before you. But you carry it in how you attach, what you tolerate, what you stay quiet about, and the roles you were assigned before you could choose. Intergenerational trauma lives in the body, in relationships, and in the stories your family told you about who you're supposed to be. I help clients trace those patterns back, separate what's theirs from what was inherited, and start building forward.

You don't have one problem. You have parts of you pulling in different directions, and they all developed for a reason. Parts work helps us understand the protectors, the managers, and the wounded places underneath without forcing them to shut up. I use IFS-informed approaches to help clients build a relationship with every part of themselves, even the ones they've been trying to silence. When you stop fighting yourself internally, the external patterns start shifting on their own.

Your body has been keeping score long before you had language for what happened. That's why talk therapy alone sometimes isn't enough. I use somatic and body-based approaches to help clients access what's stored beneath the story, in the tension you hold, the way you brace, the shutdown that takes over before you can think. We work with the nervous system directly, building your capacity to stay present, regulate in real time, and respond from choice instead of survival.

Schemas are the deep patterns running your life from underneath. They're core beliefs you formed early, things like I'm not enough, I'll always be abandoned, my needs don't matter, and they quietly shape every relationship and decision you make. Schema therapy helps us name those patterns, understand where they came from, and stop letting them drive. I use schema-informed work to help clients recognize when an old wound is running the show and respond in ways that actually fit their life now.