Shterna Levy-Haim

You may find yourselves having the same fight over and over, pulling away, shutting down, escalating, or feeling unheard, no matter how hard you try. Beneath it is often a deep longing for closeness that’s gotten tangled in protection and reactivity. I help couples slow down those cycles, understand what’s happening underneath, and rebuild a sense of emotional safety and connection.

You might feel like something from the past is still living in you, showing up as anxiety, emotional overwhelm, numbness, or a harsh inner voice you can’t seem to quiet. Even if you’ve “moved on,” your system hasn’t fully settled. I help you gently understand how those earlier experiences shaped your internal world, so healing can happen without forcing or retraumatizing.

You might feel like relationships are the place where things fall apart, either you’re anxiously reaching, shutting down, or second-guessing yourself. Even when you know what you want, it’s hard to feel secure in it. I help you understand these patterns through an attachment lens and begin to feel steadier, more grounded, and more secure in your connections with others and yourself.

You might feel like relationships are the place where things fall apart, either you’re anxiously reaching, shutting down, or second-guessing yourself. Even when you know what you want, it’s hard to feel secure in it. I help you understand these patterns through an attachment lens and begin to feel steadier, more grounded, and more secure in your connections with others and yourself.

I pay attention to how emotions show up in your body, like tension, tightness, numbness, or restlessness. We learn to notice and stay with these sensations safely so your system can settle, rather than getting stuck in overwhelm or shutdown. This helps create a deeper sense of calm and presence, not just insight.

I use EFT to help clients understand the emotional patterns that keep them stuck in conflict or disconnection. We slow things down so you can notice what’s happening underneath the reactions, like the fear, longing, or hurt that often gets missed. This creates more safety, closeness, and understanding in relationships.

I use IFS to help clients get to know the different “parts” of themselves that show up in stressful moments, like the part that criticizes, shuts down, or tries to stay in control. Instead of fighting these parts, we learn what they’re protecting and what they need so that you can feel more grounded and at ease within yourself.