Couples expertise, gender letters, and support for coming out. BLM, ongoing anti-racism work. I can guide you through the hard stuff.
Licensed Professional Counselor
Successful marriage building blocks start at the first date. Relationship Check-Up (of the Gottman Institute, aka Relationship Research) available to clients. Learn your strengths as well as specific habits to be rid of to build your happy ever after based on the research on what makes love last. Gottman trainings taken are described in the Gottman Method section of this profile.
Mind Body Medicine tools are available to tap your wisdom and growth through a variety of experiences that I have participated in as a member and through workshops with Dr. James Gordon. Guided imagery, creative writing, drawing, looking inward and various types of meditation and mindful practices are available.
My success with relationship repair and fortifying is a result of transforming my approach and marriage (25 years in 2020) with Gottman tools & strategies. I have completed the following Gottman trainings: Level 1 (overview of the research, method), Level 2 (assessment, intervention & co-morbidities training with video samples of research couples), Affairs and Broken Trust repair, Couples & Addiction Recovery. Tend to areas of friendship & conflict with this approach.
A Portland, OR Race Talks Consultant and Facilitator since 2018, mentored by Black women and other BIPOC team leaders. 2020 cohosting weekly anti-racism self exploration groups for white people using Me and White Supremacy by Layla Saad to do the inner work and stay involved in systemic change efforts for diversity, equity and inclusion. Reparations offer for CA or OR couples with a Black partner or partners to obtain relationship counselilng at no charge (or by donation).
Medical letter writing for gender affirming surgery, specialized couples support for couples with gender questioning, coming out, and transition events. Cisgender Spouses Group for supportive spouses of transgender partners. Couples group both beginners, and advanced ongoing drop in for Spouses Group members and their partners. Family and friends are of the LGBTQ rainbow. HIghly effective research based Gottman Method couples counseling when needed.
Experienced in guided repair and healing of broken trust in couples using world renowned reasearch informed approach of the Gottman Institute. Clients can also be referred to have a Gottman Relationship Check-up online to get a complete personalized picture of strengths, what is missing and what needs to be shifted out of the habits of the relationship. Sessions for addressing the broken trust can also provide strategies and coaching on strengthening or reinforcing the positive.