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About My Clients
What word would you use to describe your sex life? Embarrassing? Painful? Limited? Scary? It makes sense that you might have pain, fear, or shame connected to sex. Many of us were raised by parents who didn't know how to talk about sex, in a society that shames us for being sexual, where media provides a skewed image of sexuality. This warps our view of how we "should be" in the bedroom, leading to fear. I want to help you reclaim your sexual confidence by erasing shame and stigma.
My Background and Approach
When women/vulva owners are sexually hesitant (whether that shows up through painful sex, lack of orgasms, or shame about their own bodies and sexual thoughts), I often find that they are struggling with self-esteem and emotional expression. How comfortable are you standing up for yourself? Asserting your opinions? Asking for your needs to be met? Believing that you deserve to make your voice heard and your presence known? This is all connected to innate sexuality. When you can get in touch with your inner thoughts, core beliefs, and authentic feelings, we can discover which mental blocks are preventing you from connecting to your sexual self. Through empathic confrontation, I help you find answers: Who are you underneath the mask that society has made you wear? What do you truly want to believe, say, and do? How can we make her more comfortable?
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
Women are powerful beings with innately sexual and sensual characteristics that are often eclipsed by the male-centric narratives and needs of a patriarchal society. For example, the "heterosexual script for sex" says that sex ends when the man ejaculates, and this charade has convinced many women to dismiss their own needs (such as an orgasm, or pleasure and satisfaction in general) for those of another person, simply because "that's how it's typically done." I believe that there is room for everyone to get their needs met, and that many times it is mainly an issue of clients learning to believe that they deserve to get their needs met and practicing the skill of communicating what they want. This starts with rediscovering self-worth, which a lot of women are taught to bury, along with their emotions. I help clients to embrace and lead with emotions, as they are our teachers.