Reuben Houser (he/him)

MS, LPCC
Accepting Clients

I help men and conflict avoidant individuals save their relationships and work through their depression, anxiety and trauma.

Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor in St. Paul, MN

Services
  • Individual

About My Clients

My clients feel so angry they could explode or so defeated they are shutting down completely. In relationships they often hear themselves saying things like: “I don’t know how it got here,” “Things weren’t perfect but I didn’t think it was this bad,” and “I’ve tried so hard but nothing seems to work.” Their inner messages often sound like: “I just feel numb,” “I get so afraid to do anything, whatever I do will be wrong,” and “I can never get it right, so I just give up and be quiet.”

My Background and Approach

Working with me, my clients learn to identify and understand relationship patterns, improve communication skills, address unhealthy coping behaviors, feel calm in the face of conflict, create intimacy, learn tools to open up and enhance their overall confidence. Faith, race, culture, family dynamics, gender norms, sexuality, politics, careers and finances are just some of the subjects couples need to navigate. For the past 10 years, I’ve studied marriage, attachment and relationship dynamics. I've helped my individual clients create the relationships and lives they’ve always wanted. I would love to help you too.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

While creating relationships with compassion and empathy has always come naturally to me, knowing what to do when my wife said, “We need to talk” did not. Like many cisgendered, white men, I was socialized to avoid conflict in relationships and keep the peace. Cue, deer-in-the-headlights. Luckily, we both went to school for marriage and family therapy and worked relentlessly to understand our patterns, share vulnerably with each other, and practice an abundance of patience as we worked on ourselves individually. I firmly believe it shouldn’t take two master’s degrees to figure this out. Call, schedule a consultation or send me a message to work together.

I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Christianity

At A Glance

  • Experience: 9 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $165/session

Info

(218) 673-1522 Email Reuben
241 Cleveland Ave S
Suite B 3
St. Paul, MN 55105

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