Phoebe Hao (she/her)

AMFT
Accepting Clients

AMFT in San Francisco helping high-achieving professionals and couples with anxiety and burnout. Online in California. English & Mandarin.

Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in California

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Services
  • Individual
  • Couples
  • Child
  • Adolescent/Teen

About My Clients

I work with high-achieving professionals, couples, and co-founders in San Francisco and online across California. You may look successful on the outside yet feel anxious, burned out, or disconnected, or find the same conflicts repeating in your relationships. Many of my clients navigate high-pressure careers, complex relationships, and major life transitions. Drawing on my background in tech, finance, and entrepreneurship, I help you explore the deeper patterns shaping your life and relationship

My Background and Approach

Before becoming a therapist, I was a tech PM, founder, and venture capitalist, so I know high-pressure, ambitious worlds from the inside. I trained at California Institute of Integral Studies. My approach is active, direct, and depth-oriented. I draw on psychodynamic, Gestalt, and Jungian traditions, with EMDR where it fits. We look at where your patterns came from, how your family, culture, and early environment shaped them, and what it would take to do something different. The goal isn’t to make you less ambitious. It’s to make achievement a choice, not a way of earning love or safety. I offer virtual therapy for professionals throughout California, Sunday through Thursday, in both English and Mandarin Chinese. Book a free 15-minute consultation to see if we’re a good fit.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I believe insight matters, but understanding a pattern isn't always enough to change it. Many ways of coping once served an important purpose, even when they now leave us feeling stuck. I see therapy as a collaborative space for curiosity rather than judgment. I'm interested in the whole person: the family and culture you come from, the roles you've learned to play, and the parts of yourself that have had little room to emerge. Change isn't about becoming a different person; it's about finding more freedom to be yourself.

Techniques I Use

Specialties
Depth Therapy Psychodynamic Therapy Relational Therapy
Other Techniques
  • Attachment Theory
  • Couples Counseling
  • Depth Therapy
  • Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
  • Existential Therapy
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Hakomi
  • Psychoanalytic
  • Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Relational Therapy
  • Transpersonal Therapy
  • Relationship Counseling

Issues I Treat

Specialties
Anxiety Burnout Relationship Issues
Other Issues
  • Career Counseling
  • Depression
  • Family Conflict
  • Immigration/Acculturation
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Self-Esteem

Client Focus

Age
Pre-teens (12–14), Teens (14–18), Adults, Elders (65+)
Participants
Individuals, Couples
Languages
English, 中文 (普通话)

Qualifications

License
AMFT, State of California · #154327
Education
California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS), MA, ICP
Additional credentials
EMDR
The Coulples Institute
Years in practice
5 years
I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Buddhism

Hours & Availability

Monday 9:00 AM – 7:00 PM
Tuesday 9:00 AM – 7:00 PM
Wednesday 9:00 AM – 7:00 PM
Thursday 9:00 AM – 7:00 PM
FridayClosed
SaturdayClosed
Sunday 12:00 PM – 7:00 PM
New clients welcome
Currently accepting new clients
Telehealth
Available

At A Glance

  • Experience: 5 years of practice
  • Languages: English, 中文 (普通话)
  • Rate: $200 - 300/session

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