PatrickLyra Wilder (They/Them)

LMFT 98562
Accepting Clients

LMFT supporting anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, grief, stress, panic, ADHD, Autism, LGBTQIA, relationships, intimacy, identity, healing.

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in California

Services
  • Individual
  • Couples

About My Clients

My ideal clients are LGBTQIA, neurodivergent, or questioning adults navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, grief, stress, panic, or burnout. Many face relationship or intimacy struggles, self-esteem challenges, or identity exploration. Some are healing from high-control religion or cultish communities, or moving through life transitions. They seek affirming, somatic, trauma-informed therapy that blends body, mind, and compassion to foster resilience, healing, and self-awareness.

My Background and Approach

I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with extensive experience helping clients navigate anxiety, depression, trauma, PTSD, grief, stress, panic attacks, burnout, relationship and intimacy struggles, self-esteem challenges, identity exploration, and life transitions. I trained in one of the nation’s first Somatic Psychology programs, rooting in the body–mind connection through an attachment-based and trauma-informed lens, and completed advanced training at Yale’s Child Study Center. As a queer therapist engaged in anti-racist practice, I specialize in affirming care for LGBTQIA, transgender, and nonbinary clients, as well as neurodivergent clients including ADHD and Autism. I also support recovery from high-control religion and cultish communities. My approach blends somatic therapy, CBT, mindfulness, and person-centered care with the Trauma Resiliency Model to foster nervous system regulation, resilience, healing, and deeper self-awareness.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I believe therapy should be a safe, affirming, and collaborative relationship where you feel fully seen and supported. Healing is not about fixing what is “wrong” but about reconnecting with your body, mind, spirit, and community in ways that honor your strengths, values, and lived experiences. My practice is grounded in anti-oppression and cultural humility. I affirm LGBTQIA, transgender, and nonbinary identities, and I celebrate neurodivergence including ADHD and Autism as valid ways of being. I believe trauma, grief, anxiety, depression, and stress are often shaped by systemic injustice and deserve care that honors both individual resilience and collective struggle. I view recovery from high-control religion or cultish communities as reclaiming autonomy, dignity, and voice. I also believe coercion in monogamy or non-monogamy are equally harmful, and I work with clients to consciously create relationships that align with their truth.

Techniques I Use

Specialties
Attachment Theory Somatic Therapy: Body-Based Healing for Emotional Trauma Trauma Therapy
Other Techniques
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Art Therapy
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Couples Counseling
  • Depth Therapy
  • Eclectic Therapy
  • Existential Therapy
  • Family Systems
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy
  • Interpersonal Therapy (IPT)
  • Narrative Therapy
  • Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Relational Therapy
  • Internal Family Systems
  • Sex Therapy
  • Cognitive Processing Therapy
  • Relationship Counseling
  • Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TF-CBT)

Issues I Treat

Specialties
Autism Spectrum Disorder LGBTQ-Friendly Therapists Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Other Issues
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment
  • Burnout
  • Codependency
  • Depression
  • Gender Identity Therapy
  • Grief or Loss
  • Historical/ Intergenerational Trauma
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Polyamorous and Open Relationships
  • Racial Identity
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self-Esteem
  • Spirituality
  • Systemic Oppression Therapy
  • Teen Issues
  • Women's Issues
Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Aetna
  • Optum
  • United Healthcare
  • Oxford (Optum)
I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Agnosticism
  • Atheism
  • Buddhism
  • Christianity
  • Islam
  • Judaism
  • The Satanic Temple
  • Wicca/Paganism
  • Interfaith
  • Multifaith

At A Glance

  • Experience: 16 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $200 - 230/session

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