Octavia Bartmess

Anxiety often feels like your "survival mode" switch is stuck in the ON position. I help you flip that switch by training your nervous system to find its way back to calm. We don’t just talk about your worries; we do the deep work of grounding your spirit and retraining your brain through neurofeedback and EMDR. You’ll learn to navigate the chaos of motherhood and daily life without feeling like you’re constantly on the verge of a breakdown. Let's move you from panic to peace.

Raising a child with autism requires a level of emotional resilience that most people don’t understand. I specialize in helping you manage the unique "caregiver burnout" that comes with advocacy, school meetings, and sensory meltdowns. By focusing on your own regulation first, you become the steady anchor your child needs. We use EMDR and ego state work to process the grief and stress of the journey, ensuring you have the mental capacity to show up with love and patience.

Depression is more than just "feeling sad"—it’s a depletion of your vital energy. I help you clear the fog by looking at the whole picture, starting with your biology. We stabilize your sleep and nutrition to give your brain a fighting chance, then move into "Nativy" soul-work to address the root wounds. My goal is to help you reconnect with your purpose and find the strength to engage with your family again, moving from a state of "existing" to a state of truly living.

Communication is the heartbeat of your home. I am trained in Gottman Method Levels 1 and 2, a research-based approach that moves beyond "venting" to actual skill-building. We focus on dismantling the "Four Horsemen"—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—that erode connection. Whether navigating the stress of neurodiverse parenting or feeling distant, I provide the tools to rebuild your "Sound Relationship House" and turn conflict into deeper intimacy.

EMDR is powerful for trauma, but through the Medicine Wheel, it becomes a journey of reclamation. We don't just "process memories"; we restore balance across your physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual quadrants. I integrate Indigenous teachings and ceremony to ground your "safe place." By weaving traditional protocols with bilateral stimulation, we clear the "stuck" energy in your spirit, pulling you out of the past and returning you to a life of Hózhó (harmony).

True healing requires more than talk; it requires a regulated nervous system. I use Neurofeedback to help your brain find its way out of "survival mode" by retraining its electrical patterns for focus and calm. This is part of my holistic commitment to your biology. By addressing nutrition, sleep, and hydration alongside brain-training, we stabilize your foundation. We don’t just manage symptoms; we optimize your brain so you have the mental capacity to show up for your life.