Nicholas Trilla (he/him)

MA, LPCC
Accepting Clients

Somatic therapist & coach specializing in sacred sexuality, BDSM/kink, men’s issues, and spirituality, with an emphasis on holistic healing.

Licensed Professional Counselor Candidate in Colorado

Services
  • Individual
  • Couples

About My Clients

I work with individuals who resonate with somatic therapy and mindfulness. Many have struggled with the harmful effects of sexual misinformation, such as shame around sexual expression, unrealistic expectations set by media, confusion about authentic desire, or difficulty navigating consent in relationships. They seek to reclaim their sexual empowerment and explore their sexuality with clarity. My ideal client is ready for action-oriented coaching that fosters healing and lasting transformation.

My Background and Approach

My background includes a Masters in Clinical Health, Hakomi trained, IFS informed, BDSM/kink studied, Reiki II attuned, and studied in Vipassana meditation. My approach is deeply informed by Hakomi, which emphasizes mindfulness and the body’s role in healing. I integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS) concepts to help clients explore and resolve inner conflicts. I also incorporate my studies in BDSM and D/s archetypes with Om Rupani, creating a compassionate space for clients to explore these dynamics in a safe, consensual way. My work also draws on Tantric philosophy, supporting clients in connecting deeply with their sexuality, spirituality, and life’s purpose. I incorporate holistic coaching as a complement to therapy, offering clients actionable tools to support their growth and integration.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

Raised a white male engineer, I quickly became disenchanted with what corporate 'success' offered. I responded by choosing the path of embodied athletics, then finding meditation, and eventually experiencing a deep connection with God through medicine ceremonies. As my journey deepened further, I opened to themes of masculinity and sexuality, recognizing the vast misinformation that often guides our collective eroticism. I was broken, unsure of how to express my eros in a healthy way. Through my own challenging journey, I have experienced the profundity of healing our most taboo topics within community, as Sangha. Becoming vulnerable, consensual, and witnessing each other serves to amplify our healing. My work is informed through my own journey; exploring the darker corners of our somatic blueprint with loving compassion; being of service to our cultural healing and being bold enough to broach taboo topics such as erotic energies.

Techniques I Use

Specialties
Coaching Hakomi Sex Therapy
Other Techniques
  • Coaching
  • Couples Counseling
  • Existential Therapy
  • Gestalt Therapy
  • Hakomi
  • Holistic Therapy
  • Mindfulness-Based Cognitive Therapy (MBCT)
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • Somatic Therapy: Body-Based Healing for Emotional Trauma
  • Transpersonal Therapy
  • Internal Family Systems
  • Sex Therapy
  • Relationship Counseling

Issues I Treat

Specialties
Men's Issues Sexual Problems Spirituality
Other Issues
  • Abuse
  • Anger Issues
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment
  • Burnout
  • Codependency
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Domestic Violence or Intimate Partner Violence
  • Family Conflict
  • Grief or Loss
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Men's Issues
  • Parenting
  • Polyamorous and Open Relationships
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self-Esteem
  • Sexual Abuse or Assault
  • Sexual Problems
  • Spirituality
  • Women's Issues
I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Buddhism
  • Christianity
  • Taoism
  • Wicca/Paganism
  • Multifaith

At A Glance

  • Experience: 2 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $130 - 180/session

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