Matthew Willner (He/Him)

LCSW
Accepting Clients

Compassionate, affirming care for individuals & couples — including LGBTQ+, ENM, kink, as well as men navigating life's hardest challenges.

Psychotherapist in New York, NY

About My Clients

My clients often feel they haven't found a therapist who truly gets their life — their struggles, relationships, sexuality, or something they haven't felt comfortable sharing with others yet. I work with individuals and couples, with expertise in working with LGBTQ+, ENM, and kink communities. I also focus on working with men navigating emotional, relational and sexual challenges, approaching difficult issues with compassion and care.

My Background and Approach

I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) in NY, NJ, and CO, and hold an MSW from Columbia University. I am a Certified Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapist and have served as a teaching assistant for the IFS Institute — IFS is at the core of how I work, inviting curiosity toward the parts of yourself that feel stuck or hard to face, rather than pathologizing them. I also draw on CBT, psychodynamic theory, and relational approaches depending on what each client needs. I meet you where you are and trust that you are the greatest expert on your own experience.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I believe identity is something we discover over a lifetime, not something fixed. I don't shy away from complexity — grey areas, uncertainty, shame, harm, or the parts of yourself you're not sure how to talk about yet. Before becoming a therapist, I spent a decade across business, government, and nonprofit work, which shapes how I think about systems, context, and change. I bring that same curiosity to the therapy room: about who you are, what shaped you, and where you want to go.

Insurance Plans Accepted
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I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Buddhism
  • Judaism

At A Glance

  • Experience: 4 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $225 - 275/session

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