I'm a licensed therapist passionate about helping men build healthier relationships with themselves and their loved ones!
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Clemente, CA
Our most vulnerable feelings such as fear, sadness, loneliness, etc. are often masked with secondary emotions such as anger and contempt. This happens because it is much more comfortable to express secondary feelings like anger than to express feelings like loneliness. Learning to talk about your vulnerable feeling with a safe person can help you feel more accepted, build more meaningful relationships, and become more present for your loved ones.
I've used cognitive behavior therapy techniques with my clients and in my own life to help overcome challenges. Overtime our experiences can create thoughts that lead us to believe certain things about ourselves. Sometimes these beliefs are good, (i.e., "I am a good dad") however sometimes these thoughts don't make us feel good (i.e., I am a failure). These thoughts can be challenged and changed to help you feel better about yourself and empower you to create new behaviors!
We live in a world filled with scary news headlines that make us feel like we are constantly in a crisis. Not to mention the day to day stress from work, the kids, and our families. Learning to pause and take a break from what's happening in the world is a skillset that we have to begin implementing. When you are flying on a plane, the flight attendant reminds you that in case of an emergency, you must put your oxygen mask on first. Let's find what your oxygen mask looks like!
Men can have a difficult time talking about their feelings. This can significantly impact their ability to build strong relationships, be there for their loved ones, and feel good about themselves overall. Exploration of feelings is an important skillset that some of us missed out on learning. Luckily for us, it is never too late to begin work on this. You can begin your journey of learning how to talk about your feelings and witness the impact that can have on all aspects of your life!
Stepping into a new relationship? Getting engaged or married? Becoming a father? These are life cycle transitions that can appear pretty normal from a distance, however when you are going through them it can be scary and difficult. Having a place to talk about your fears, worries, and insecurities can help you find effective ways to cope through these transitions. Coping helps you become more mindful of these feelings so your not reacting to them, and instead feel more in control.