Lily Sloane (she/hey/they)

MA, LMFT
Accepting Clients

It may be too much to imagine loving or accepting yourself. I want to help you learn to tolerate yourself without needing to push away.

Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Francisco, CA

Services
  • Individual

About My Clients

You care a lot about your community and the world. But there are obstacles out of your control and personal stuff that also makes it hard to face –– messages you received from your family, messages you've received from society that hold you back and push you down. Therapy can help you understand the barriers inside and outside of you and it can bring more choice where you thought you had none. We start by building tolerance and compassion for where you're at.

My Background and Approach

My training and experience have taught me that therapy is not one size fits all nor is it one therapist fits all. I will approach your case, open to discovering what kind of therapeutic relationship will work for you at this time. The backbone of my work is relational - meaning the relationship between us is at the core of the therapy. From there, we can work with a myriad approaches such as talk, art, parts work, and mindfulness to help you get more connected to yourself and feel more choice in your life. I received a Masters in Counseling Psychology from California Institute of Integral Studies and currently split my time between my private practice and hosting my podcast, A Therapist Walks Into a Bar, and a weekly live advice show on BFF.fm called Radical Advice.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I grew up being taught that making the world a better place was more important than anything. But along the way, I saw a lot of behavior that didn't line up with the message I was receiving verbally. It turns out, wanting to be a certain way isn't enough when we're dealing with generations of trauma, a society that alienates us in all kinds of ways, and interpersonal pain. Healing myself became an integral aspect of fighting to improve the world around me. I now know that social and environmental justice won't happen unless we learn to love ourselves enough to challenge ourselves in sustainable ways. I bring this lens to my work as a therapist. I believe the personal is political and vice versa. I believe looking inward is an important part of the fight for justice everywhere. Therapy is an ethical choice, when understanding ourselves helps us reduce the harm we can do to others and our planet.

Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Out of Network
I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Agnosticism
  • Atheism

At A Glance

  • Experience: 9 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $190/session

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