Kasey Curtis (she/her)

Hello to all you self critical folks! All the ones that feel like you're probably always the one to blame if things don't go right, or like you don't quite measure up, like you're failing. Yep, you! If you have lots of negative thoughts or feelings towards yourself--you are in the right place. I help people understand where they learned to relate to themselves in this way. We work towards undoing some of those old patterns, and learn how to begin to find self care, kindness and compassion.

Many people have come to me for help when they feel confused in their relationship. Unsure if it's still the right relationship for them, not sure what to do after infidelity, or constantly feel insecure. Some folks like to talk about attachment styles, or work through dating scenarios. I'm here to help bring greater understanding to how you relate to others, why you do things that way (non judgy, of course), and identify what it is you really actually need. I see people find clarity and hope.

Anxiety can be a doozy. It shows up in so many different ways in your thoughts, body sensations, actions and relationships. I truly take delight in anxious minds and find them to be deep, sensitive, intelligent, and caring. I feel for the challenges you face, and actively help you to learn the underpinnings of this state of being, learn tools to manage better/differently, and when possible, to decrease the anxiety you feel. It's possible to find more calm inside.

Using principles of mindfulness, we can bring greater awareness to and tolerance of your thoughts, emotions, body sensations. This can be very helpful treatment for anxiety as it is very present focused, and anxiety is often past or future focused. This present moment is often a rich place to be. Mindfulness is learning how to be here.

Aka "parts work". This can be useful for so many (any) issues, and I often see it being super helpful with internal conflicts. One part of you wants (fill in the blank) and another part of you wants (the opposite blank). Parts work helps to get more connected to the deeper feelings inside of you. Real magic happens when these feelings are seen, heard, understood and validated. It's amazing what changes become possible in these conditions.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. It's a weird system but it is really effective. It uses eye movements while focusing on distressing events or memories. Through that process, the emotional charge associated with the events and memories is released, and people are able to feel more relief. Folks also tend to feel more compassion for themselves, which can be difficult to achieve through talk and logic.

EMDR stands for Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing. It's a weird method that has truly profound effects (in a good way!). When moving the eyes back and forth while focusing on a distressing memory or event, the level of distress decreases and the emotional charge is diminished. This is a basic oversimplification, but it's very powerful. It can often help deep thoughts and feelings change that would take much longer via talk and logic.

aka "Parts work". This can help with almost anything that ails you. One of the most common ways I find it useful is when there are inner conflicts. A part of you really wants to (fill in the blank) and another part of you wants (opposite blank). Often, people find themselves very stuck in this place, when neither side will budge. Offering a deeper view into the feelings, thoughts and motivations for each part allows significant shifts to happen organically.

Mindfulness can help folks learn to be more aware of their thoughts, feelings, body sensations. This helps to create more understanding about patterns in play. It's also helpful with anxiety, which tends to be focused on the past or the future. Mindfulness helps us learn how to be here and now, and this is often rich territory that gets overlooked.

All you over-thinkers, worriers, panicky ones: I really feel for your struggles. I often find those with anxious minds and bodies to be deep, thoughtful, sensitive, caring souls. For those struggling with persistent worry, who analyze things over and over, or react to situations out of fear: my goal is to help you develop some new coping tools, explore the underpinnings of the anxiety to help understand where it's coming from, and when possible, decrease the feelings of anxiety.

Many folks come to me with confusion about their relationships. Whether they want to stay in them or not, how to deal with the impact of an affair, or curious about their attachment style. Some folks like to explore their dating patterns so they can stop picking the same person over and over again. Or process complicated family dynamics. I'm here to explore all these patterns with you, help you gain understanding about yourself, and make new choices, and feel more confident going forward.

If you always feel like you're failing, or think that the negative outcome was your fault, or that no matter what you do it's not good enough, you are in the right place! I love to get deeper into your thoughts, feelings and beliefs, explore where they came from, and help you learn how to relate to yourself differently. It can take some time to change your view of yourself, but I'm invested in the journey!