Kaori Oto (she/her)


I provide online therapy for couples and individuals. I specialized in relationship issues. I am creative, compassionate, and direct.

Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in Seattle, WA
Supervised by Rodney Jong MS LMFT

  • Free Initial Consultation
  • Contact
  • Individual
  • Couples

About My Clients

Perhaps you are struggling in a relationship, not able to communicate or stuck in negative patterns. Drifting apart, you yearn for intimacy and being desired. You wonder if you should go or stay when trust is gone. Or you may need to find your voice and create boundaries. Maybe you're an overachiever or your inner-critic has exhausted you, anxiety is finally too much. The relational conflict is starting to affect every area of your life. You are looking for a therapist who can guide you through.

My Background and Approach

Couples Therapy: Some of the issues that couples seek help with include concerns about conflict resolution, emotional intimacy, trust, infidelity, sexuality, opening up relationships, trauma, past abuse, ADD/ADHD, anxiety, substance use, finance, grief, life transitions, codependency, and cultural/racial understanding. I integrate Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy, Gottman Method, and other orientations to suit the couple's goals and communication styles. I also offer an essential relationship (premarital/ commitment) package. Individual Therapy: I view problematic behaviors as an adapted solution to the past challenge and trauma. My approach is to understand your processing styles and to combine talk therapy and somatic/body-based therapy to address persistent issues. Areas where I can help: relationship, family conflicts, anxiety, PTSD, communication, performance, depression, identity, low self-esteem, acculturation, anger management, and life transitions.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

My dedication to therapy is driven by my belief that we are all unique and that each relationship is an intercultural joint-venture. Asking for help could turn the hardship into a growth opportunity. Communication is not a gift, but a skill. I help couples and individuals to de-escalate the conflict and rebuild intimacy with others and themselves. For relational trauma work, I believe combining talk therapy with somatic/body-based approach is effective because "your body keeps scores" (Bessel Van der Kolk, MD). I also believe that therapy should be a place where you can unleash feelings of confusion, loneliness, and anger, and where you re-define who you are. You don't have to struggle alone. I am reminded everyday how resilient we are, we know how to love and how to heal. If your relationship is worth fighting for, I would love to hear from you. All couples and individuals are welcome. 日本語でもご連絡下さい。

I offer online counseling in the following states:

At A Glance

  • Experience: 1 year of practice
  • Languages: English, 日本語
  • Rate: $120 - 180/session


206-369-2212 Email Kaori
9714 3rd Ave, NE
Suite 100
Seattle, WA 98115

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