Compassionate therapy for adults navigating Complex Trauma, PTSD, and attachment injuries.
Licensed Professional Counselor in Portland, OR
I have devoted my career to working with people who have experienced trauma. I work especially well with people who have experienced interpersonal trauma, from caregivers, partners, or strangers. I use a trauma-focused lens in every interaction with my clients, always keeping in mind how trauma can impact every area of our lives. I use Internal Family Systems and attachment-focused therapies to address the interpersonal hurt that trauma can cause.
The relationships we have when we are young impact our expectations and reactions in relationships as we grow into adults. Often times, we don't see the ways that our past is playing out in our present relationships until it starts to get in the way. I can help you learn about your attachment style and how you might have developed this attachment style. From there, we will look at the ways that this attachment style is helping and hindering you, and help you build the relationships you want.
When we have been through difficult things in the past, we can be led to believe that it is our fault. We can internalize the unkind things that others have told us. Sometimes, our brains start to believe that the way we can keep ourselves safe from being hurt again is to say these unkind things to ourselves before others say them. We will work to identify where these messages came from, what purpose they serve, and how we can be kinder to ourselves and still maintain our safety.
I believe that the things that have happened in your past impact the things you are experiencing in the present. Together, we will work to find the roots of your present struggles, heal the wounds that were created back then, and change the patterns so you can create the life you want moving forward.
Have you ever thought "part of me wants to do this, but another part of me wants to do that?" We all have parts of ourselves that are working together (and sometimes working against one another) to help us move through our lives. Sometimes, parts become stuck in a certain way of doing things that gets in the way of how we want to live. Together, we will learn about your system of parts, what they are trying to protect you from, and how they can begin to trust your ability to lead them.
It can be so difficult to trust others after being hurt by people in your life. Healing from these attachment wounds happens best in the context of a safe and supportive relationship between therapist and client. This relationship will be the foundation of our work together as we face the challenge of healing from your most difficult experiences and relationships. Our work will go at your pace, ensuring that you feel safe enough to face the tough stuff, always knowing I am there to support you.
The relationships we have with our parents can impact the way that we relate with others as we grow into adulthood. Through a nonjudgmental and supportive relationship, I help my clients identify the patterns they learned growing up, and the ways that these patterns are playing out in their current relationships. Clients learn how to build secure relationships within themselves and with others in their lives, so they no longer approach relationships with a fear of rejection or abandonment.