Jaime Fuentes (he/him)

My approach to polyamorous and open relationships is to focus on creating an agreement that works for all parties, while taking the time to explore what comes up when making these considerations- past trauma, attachment issues, anxiety. The focus is to create an agreement that can be the target of intervention and change so that no one feels that they need to change their partner(s) to make things work.

My approach to sexual problems is to first assess and understand what is happening from a destigmatized lens. Typically, sexual problems can be categorized under two targets- Issues of arousal versus issues of performance. Once we understand what is happening and why, we can move toward change with a targeted intervention.

Being a member of this community, I understand the issues that can arise from the ever-evolving understanding of sexuality and identity. My experience with and understanding of evidence based interventions is paired with my open, curious, and flexible approach to understanding the human experience. We can utilize the interventions already known for understanding parts of ourselves that are buried so deep, they are not accessible to our conscious mind such as IFS and EMDR.

I have extensive training and experience in DBT. I have utilized the intervention in individual interventions and group interventions. This approach is helpful for people who are targetting behavioral changes. DBT helps us regulate our emotions, improve our relationships, and learn healthier ways of coping with difficult experiences.

IFS is an intervention that is incredibly powerful at giving is a better grasp on our lived experience. It helps us understand why it feels like we have contradicting parts, why we sometimes do things that we later regret, and why our defense mechanisms are so active. Through understanding, we create change.

EMDR is my preferred approach for treating PTSD and other trauma related disorders. It gives the client the power in how much they share, without compromising their potential for healing.