Inna Yulman (She/Her)

Navigating polyamorous relationships? Looking to open your relationship to ENM or polyamory? Recovering from a recent breakup? As a relationship counselor, I work with poly and mono individuals and couples. I have an extensive foundation on how attachment theory expands to non-monogamous couples, handling jealousy and using it as a signaling system to understand ones needs, as well as establishing boundaries and clear communication channels in ENM relationships.

Feeling stuck in a relationship? Recovering from a recent breakup? Worried about your child during the breakup? Want to move on and create a solid relationship to yourself and set healthier boundaries with others? I have a lot of experience helping people overcome difficulties in their close relationships and also in dealing with people coming out of relationships. We work to make the process less painful, more constructive, and to build a foundation for a strong new start.

Our style of attachment influences how we handle relationships, including romantic, family, social, or professional. Understanding how you balance your drive for autonomy and desire for closeness is a key to your ability to trust others, perceive your self-worth, set boundaries, and navigate conflict. The attachment theory is a cornerstone to building an empowered you, allowing you to act powerfully rather than react to situations around you.

Emotionally Focused Theory (EFT) aims to understand emotions as a key to our identity. Emotions are rooted in personal experiences and trauma. They guide our interpretations of events, life choices, and interactions with others. EFT uses emotions as a signaling system to understand what meaning you attach to events based on your personal history. It aims to examine that meaning, understand your true needs, and communicate them to others.

Many of us have been in situations when we tried to override emotions with reason, dismissing what we feel with statements like "this doesn't make any rational sense." Often, this results in a massive cognitive dissonance, as we cannot overrule our emotions to feel differently. We get stuck. ACT is a method of accepting our thoughts and feelings rather than fighting against them and feeling guilty about them. ACT allows you to accept yourself with compassion and move forward.