Welcome! I am a white, nonbinary, queer therapist who uses a social justice/anti-oppressive lens to work toward liberation for all.
Therapist in Denver, CO
Most of us are taught that monogamy is the only moral way of being in romantic relationship with others. While monogamy is a perfectly valid and wonderful choice for some, non-monogamy is just as valid and wonderful for others! Given the world we live in, though, non-monogamy comes with many obstacles that we have not been taught to navigate. Jealousy, for example, is normal and to be expected. It's how you respond to it that matters. And don't worry, my office has more than two chairs. :)
As a sex therapist, I am sex positive and open to working with those who enjoy "non-traditional" experiences of sexual pleasure (and consensual pain). I will do everything in my power to feed your empowerment and starve your shame. The media and dominate culture already does a good job of feeding shame. I guarantee you that whatever you're into, and whatever you experience, you are more "normal" or "healthy" than you might think.
As a nonbinary human, I have lived experience in what it is like to live outside of the box of expectations set up for you at birth. I have 2.5 years of experience working with trans and nonbinary folks ranging from just beginning to explore to writing letters for gender confirming surgery to navigating life in your new and improved body and expression. While it's difficult to not be cisgender in this world, it's also beautiful and something to be celebrated. Here's to gender euphoria!
To me, feminist therapy essentially means social justice therapy. We cannot do therapy in a vacuum. All of our lives are influenced by patriarchy, white supremacy, ableism, cisheteronormativity, capitalism, etc. I would be doing you a disservice if I did not see you for all that you are within the context of this world. It is possible to hold all of these pieces at once.
The basic tenants of narrative therapy are social justice, social constructivism, and postmodernism. All of that to say, by telling our stories, we can write our own endings. We can get to know our problems, greet them and acknowledge them, and through working with them, decrease or even cease their power over us. Someone who self-harms might be trying to harm the problem, but instead harms themselves. Let's find that problem, pull it out and examine it. To know it, is to have power over it.
Systems theory takes into account all of the pieces that influence your life. In our first session, I will create a genogram with you. A genogram is essentially a fancy family tree. Family isn't always blood, so this will look different for everyone. We will examine trends, patterns, and ways in which your history has led to your wounds. For example, a genogram can show patterns of emotional disconnection that may have led to fear of abandonment or neglect. Knowledge is power!
"Liberation is the opportunity for every human, no matter their body, to have unobstructed access to their highest self; for every human to live in radical self-love." - Sonya Renee Taylor I truly believe Sonya's words; we are already born with all that we need to become brilliant beings. We lose access to that because of systemic inequities that warp our stories of ourselves into shame-filled and deficit-based narratives. We don't have to keep writing our stories that way.
We are herd animals; always in relationship with others in deep and complex ways. You know the phrase "we're born alone, we die alone?" It's not true. We literally cannot be born alone. We came from someone else's body and we needed to be cared for for the first several years of our lives. That doesn't change when we grow up; we still need relationships. Societal narratives warp our ability to engage in relationships, but we can relearn our innate ways to love each other well.