Growth occurs in repairing, not in perfection. Mind and body are inextricably linked -- when you nurture one, you nurture the other. Having a good relationship doesn't mean you NEVER argue -- it means that you argue fairly, safely, and respectfully. Your past doesn't have to predict your future. You CAN break dysfunctional patterns and cycles, even if they have spanned generations. Therapy doesn't have to be serious all the time -- sometimes you've got to laugh.
On a personal level, I know that Black lives matter, and that white allies -- if we're going to be true allies -- need to work every day to disrupt and dismantle white supremacist heteropatriarchy, starting by listening and amplifying the voices of BIPOC and queer folx. LGBTQ+ folx and immigrants are welcome, supported, and celebrated here. I'm a parent. I'm an active volunteer with Moms Demand Action/Everytown for Gun Safety, because domestic violence or suicidal thoughts can turn deadly with easy access to a firearm.