Elaine Bender (she/her)

LPC, NCC
Accepting Clients

I work with teens and young adults who feel stuck in lives that no longer feel like what they wanted.

Licensed Professional Counselor in Tulsa, OK

About My Clients

You keep finding yourself behaving in ways you don't want to, but no matter what you try, you can’t seem to stop. Maybe this happens because of trauma: whether it was something “big” that happened, or invalidation that you received over and over until it left you with emotions, relationships, and beliefs that no longer served you. You might have tried therapy for a long time, but it felt like nothing really changed. You’re emotionally exhausted, and this is definitely not how you want to live.

My Background and Approach

I utilize my experience in mental and behavioral health to help teens and young adults overcome personal and relational obstacles, take emotional risks, set boundaries, and build healthy and meaningful lives. I work to treat mood- and anxiety-related problems, as well as relationship issues and challenges with unwanted emotions and behaviors. I often work with clients that may have not had previous success in therapy but who find improvement through our active work to bridge the gaps in emotional and relational skills that cause persistent problems. I'm trained in brief and prolonged trauma processing models to help you move past your childhood or relational pain. Together, we’ll work to figure out what behaviors, feelings, and beliefs that are leading to anxiety and unhappiness, and develop real, practical skills to manage your emotions and actions better.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I understand how challenging it is to make sustainable changes in our lives. You don’t need more judgment, random advice, or endless talking that goes nowhere. You need active support, clear feedback, and therapy that actually works. Let's start with a free 15-minute consultation—no pressure, just a chance to talk. And then let's get to work building emotional and relational health and wholeness.

Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Out of Network
  • Aetna
  • Cigna
  • Blue Cross Blue Shield (BCBS)
  • Healthchoice
  • Evernorth
I offer online counseling in the following states:
I have experience with the following
  • Christianity

At A Glance

  • Experience: 5 years of practice
  • Languages: English
  • Rate: $100 - 130/session

Info

Email Elaine
2417 E 53rd St
Tulsa, OK 74105

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