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About My Clients
You haven't had sex in months. Maybe years. You still love each other. You just stopped reaching. Sexless marriage. Dead bedroom. Mismatched desire. Open, poly, and kink relationships you're tired of explaining. Or you're the one who always asks. Men who are good at everything except being wanted. Women whose desire vanished. You're not broken. Nobody taught you this. Sex therapy in Santa Monica and online across California, Illinois, and New York.
How I Can Help You
We start with what's happening in your body, not the story you tell about it. Dead bedroom. Low desire. Desire that shows up for everyone but your partner. Erections that quit. Pain nobody's taken seriously. Sex after cancer, kids, or a body that changed. Jealousy you didn't see coming in an open relationship. Rules you agreed to and now resent. We say it out loud, then we practice something different right there in the room. You'll learn how your body decides it's safe enough to want anything. You'll learn what pleasure feels like in you before you try to give it to someone else. You'll get words for asking, and for saying no, that don't blow up the relationship. No worksheets you'll never finish. No blame. No circling the same fight for two years. Couples counseling and individual sex therapy, in person in Santa Monica or online anywhere in CA, IL, and NY. I offer a free 15-minute consult so you can experience how I work first.
Why I am a Good Fit for You
You want someone who's already sat with your exact situation. Twenty-five+ years in, I have. Open marriages, polyamory, kink, dead bedrooms, desire discrepancy, sex after cancer, erectile and pain problems. None of it's new to me, so you don't spend three sessions teaching me your life before we get anywhere. Here's how the work goes. We don't just talk about it. I pull from attachment work, PACT, Internal Family Systems, somatic therapy, tantra, and nervous system science, so you practice connection in the room and feel the shift while it's happening. I'm direct. I'll tell you what I see. If it's not working, we change it. The proof behind that: federally funded research on couples and sexuality through NIH and the Australian Research Council, Rekindle with Cancer Council NSW, Aviva, professor at RUSH Medical College, University of Sydney, and Baruch College, sex columnist for USA Today. Licensed in California, Illinois, and New York. Ready? Book a consult.