Day Adams (he/him)

Conflict exists in all relationships, but it can get disconnecting and distressing. Habits, expectations, and values all impact how we collaborate with the people we love. Through talk about how we experience these things with our partners, we open doors to being able to relate in preferred ways and reconnect. I also work individually with people who have engaged in affairs and want to understand and change those behaviors, as well as individuals concurrently in couples/relational therapy.

Men face a particular array of challenges these days and we are prone to feeling isolated and burdened with expectations and uncertainty. It can be helpful to have a space to talk with another man and consider what we're up against and what might be done to live in preferred ways. It's my honor to hold space for men to share what's really on their hearts and minds and talk it through together.

Narrative therapy is a collaborative, non-pathologizing therapeutic approach. Two central ideas of this approach are that people are separate from problems and that we make meaning, act, and relate based on the stories that we know about our lives and the world. I first met narrative therapy in my graduate program and have since done extended graduate-level narrative therapy development through the Evanston Family Therapy Center.

I was educated and trained at Lewis & Clark to practice therapy in a relational way. To me that means always recognizing that we are not just individuals cut off from the world and acting in a vacuum. We are fundamentally in connection with others, from before birth until long after death, and that, more than anything else, is what gives our lives shape and meaning. I do my best to always honor and center that connectedness in the therapeutic relationship.

I have additional clinical training in perinatal mental health. I see new dads (sometimes with partners) who are preparing for (prenatal) or in the midst of (postpartum) the challenges of adjusting to life after having a child/children. This time is wild and all sorts of things can come up, including intense sadness, worry, and anger - we'll find ways together to stay grounded and connected in your relationships and community, in order to be open to this experience of broad and deep change.