Courtney Stauffer (She/Her/Hers)

Navigating Ethical Non-Monogamy comes with unique joys and complexities. Whether you are opening up a long-term marriage or managing a polycule, I provide an affirming space to process jealousy, negotiate boundaries, and improve communication. You don't need to explain the basics of CNM here. We will focus on building secure attachments across multiple connections, ensuring that everyone’s needs are met. I help you structure your relationships in a way that feels sustainable and authentic.

Do you feel like roommates? When communication breaks down, intimacy is often the first casualty. I help couples break the exhausting cycle of the same fight happening over and over. We won't just teach you "I statements"; we will dig into the resentment and unspoken needs driving the conflict. By healing the emotional disconnect outside the bedroom, we create the safety needed to reconnect inside it. Let’s move you from surviving the daily grind to actually enjoying each other again.

Struggling with low desire, erectile concerns, or pain during sex? You are not broken. Sexual issues are often the body's way of speaking when words fail. I help individuals and couples move past shame to understand the physical and emotional roots of dysfunction. Using a systemic approach, we explore how stress, history, and relationship dynamics impact your body. Whether it is a mismatch in libido or difficulty reaching orgasm, we will work together to reclaim pleasure and confidence.

Sometimes we need concrete tools to interrupt negative loops. CBT examines the link between your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. If you are stuck in anxiety or negative self-talk—especially regarding performance or body image—we use CBT to identify those automatic triggers and challenge them. It provides practical, actionable strategies to change how you react to stress. We will build a toolkit to help you feel more in control of your mind and your actions.

In Narrative Therapy, the person is not the problem; the problem is the problem. We work to separate your identity from the issues weighing you down. Together, we examine the stories you’ve been told—about sex, gender, or what a "normal" relationship looks like—and deconstruct the narratives that cause you shame. We re-author your story to align with your actual values and desires, giving you the agency to define your life and relationships on your own terms.

EFT is about more than just "talking about feelings"—it’s about changing the dance you and your partner are stuck in. I help you identify your negative cycle, the loop where one partner pushes while the other pulls away. We slow this down to look at the raw, vulnerable emotions hiding underneath the anger or silence. By creating emotional safety, we rebuild the secure attachment bond that allows for true intimacy. It is about moving from isolation back to connection.