About My Clients
Do you find that many of your relationships are unbalanced, and you give more than you get back? When there is not enough room for you, trying to express yourself just feels like an uphill battle that's not worth it. So you give up on people and retreat... but that can get lonely. I specialize in helping strong, independent people learn how to get their needs met in relationships and enjoy deeper connection.
My Background and Approach
I understand what its like to be self-sufficient but lonely. I spent my entire thirties being single, and was resentful of giving too much in my friendships. I was angry at fat oppression and wondered if dating was even worth it. In my own healing journey, I learned how I was unconsciously avoiding the intimacy I craved. I learned to love the body I'm in and started exercising from a place of self-love, eventually becoming a competitive open-water swimmer. I learned how to set better boundaries, make requests, and to receive. Today, I have deeply satisfying friendships, and have been in a healthy romantic relationship for many years. There was a time when I believed I could never find a partner, and that my marginalized identities meant I couldn't have the life I want. Today I am dedicated to helping my clients break through similar limiting beliefs. So much more is possible. Let me help you create the kinds of relationships you have always wanted.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
As a Social Worker, I directed a welfare-to-work program for over a decade. This experience helped me hone the skill of coaching people to meet their goals while striking just the right balance between accountability and support. My current passion is AEDP, a powerful method of counseling informed by attachment theory and neuroscience that harnesses the power of the therapeutic relationship to undo aloneness and create lasting transformation. Our work together can help you enjoy more balanced relationships where your needs are getting met. You will learn to notice what you want and ask for it, and to notice what you don’t want and to set boundaries. With a new orientation towards genuine connection, you can finally find community and partnership, feel a sense of belonging, and experience the relief of getting a turn being taken care of.