About My Clients
As we move through life, we all learn ways of interacting with others through observing our families and peers. Many of us realize over time - for example, when as adults we respond to a romantic partner like we would to our parents - that what we've learned isn't working for us anymore. If you're feeling stuck and playing out old relationship patterns that no longer serve you - welcome. I'm here to help you recognize, get curious about, & gradually let go of what isn't working for you anymore.
My Background and Approach
A lot of people hear "marriage and family therapist" and assume I only treat married couples. Not true (although I do love working with couples)! Being an LMFT means that I think and operate relationally and systemically, rather than individualistically. I want to explore how your connections and attachments, from childhood onward, are affecting you today. In addition, you'll hear me use a lot of "parts language" - i.e "what part of you was in the driver's seat during that argument with your partner?" From there, we will get to know and understand your internal system of parts: their needs, roles, and relationships to each other. In working with couples, I frequently incorporate theories and interventions from the Gottman Method. We'll talk about building and maintaining a strong foundation of shared understanding and value in your relationship, identify the core issues underlying your conflicts, and practice more constructive and assertive ways to address issues in the relationship.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
I am a member of the LGBTQ community and strive to provide competent and affirming care especially to trans and nonbinary clients. I believe that living under capitalist, white supremacist, and patriarchal structures of oppression harms us all, but does not harm us all equally. Although I strive to be mindful of my internalized biases and blind spots, I know that deconstructing harmful values is a constant process and am always open to hearing client feedback on how I can improve and learn more. I believe strongly in pro-labor and socialist movements, as well as in free and easy access to reproductive healthcare. I volunteer as an abortion clinic escort. (I also foster kittens for a local shelter! They may join our telehealth sessions at times.) As a lifelong nerd, I'm also passionate about providing competent therapy to my fellow geeks and nerds. Looking for a therapist who understands the drama in your DND group? Or who probably saw that funny tweet? I might be a good fit!