Our early attachments have profound impacts on us. The therapeutic relationship offers a unique opportunity for repair.
In a nutshell, your mind knows what you need to talk about. It knows what needs to be brought from unconscious to conscious. You are in charge, and whatever comes to mind when we are together is relevant, even if it's not obvious why. Over time, paying attention to what comes up and the patterns that emerge is what allows for change.
Relationships matter, including your relationship with your therapist. Our work together will use what happens in therapy as a way of gaining more insight on what is happening in your relationships outside of therapy.
It’s likely that the emotional pain of feeling helpless and alone is amplified if you are Highly Sensitive - HSPs tend to feel both joy and pain more intensely than people who are not Highly Sensitive. Being a Highly Sensitive Person has contributed to your success already. Therapy will pay attention to these successes when looking at how you are also suffering.
Depression is so much more than sad and hopeless. Depression is feeling resigned, defeated, powerless. There doesn’t seem to be any way out - desolate and alone. Together, we will keep eagle eyes out for the things that get buried, are too hard to see right now. We will build a case that is the other side of the story, the one you haven’t been able to see or acknowledge, the side that shows your ability to connect, your deep well of empathic strength, the resilience that has gotten you this far.
For Highly Sensitive people, grief sticks around longer, losses are more difficult to get over. It can feel like there is something wrong with you for not being able to move on in the same way as your friends. There is nothing wrong with you. Healing is possible.