Becky Bolen (she/her)

Low self-esteem often develops alongside perfectionism and people-pleasing, rooted in the belief that you have to achieve, get it right, or keep others happy to be worthy. Over time, these patterns can fuel self-doubt, harsh inner criticism, and a constant sense of falling short. Together, we bring these beliefs into awareness, explore where they came from, and gently challenge the ones that no longer serve you.

I help clients identify the environments, patterns and beliefs in their life contributing to burnout. We then work together to find ways to set boundaries, accommodate themselves and create a sustainable life, not just survival.

Anxiety often stems from the messages we’ve internalized about ourselves and the world. These beliefs now subconsciously run the show and shape how we think, feel, and respond. We identify these patterns with curiosity and compassion. Then we gently challenge the beliefs that keep you stuck, replacing them with more balanced, supportive ways of seeing yourself and your life. The result is greater confidence, clearer thinking, and a deeper sense of ease in how you move through the world.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on the connection between your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. The beliefs you hold about yourself can strongly influence how you feel and how you move through the world. In our work, we identify these patterns of thinking. We then gently challenge these beliefs and experiment with new, more balanced ways of thinking and responding. Over time, this process helps you step out of automatic patterns and build a more supportive relationship with yourself

Psychodynamic therapy focuses on understanding how your past experiences and relationships have shaped the way you see yourself, others, and the world. Many of the patterns that show up in the present often have roots in earlier experiences that still influence you, often outside of your awareness. We gently explore these patterns, making connections between past and present. As you begin to understand where these dynamics come from, you experience freedom from cycles you have been stuck in.

Internal Family Systems (IFS) is based on the idea that we all have different “parts” within us, like the part that strives for perfection, the part that people-pleases, or the part that feels anxious or self-critical. These parts aren’t flaws; they developed as ways to protect you and help you navigate your experiences. In our work together, we get to know these parts with curiosity rather than judgment. Instead of trying to silence or fight them, we begin to understand what they need.