Working with individuals and couples to help them form healthier, happier connections in their relationships.
Counselor in Webster Groves, MO
Supervised by Marsha Andreoff, MO #2014039277
Feeling unseen, unheard, misunderstood, unimportant, and alone. Let's work on understanding who you are, why things are important to you, validating you as a person in a way that your partner can see and hear these things as well. We often misinterpret or misunderstand our partners intentions and these misses lead us away from our partner. Lets get into what is really going on, why you are reacting the way you do, understanding the importance or impact, and working towards change.
Our level of connection, how we react to others, the ways we connect or don't connect, our ability to trust- these are all due to our level of attachment. This could be due to something that happened in your childhood, how your caregivers interacted with you or it could be an event in your life that has now made you more guarded and less able to let others in. We will explore this to that you (and your partner) can understand where certain aspects of you/behaviors are coming from.
Integrative therapy is a fancy way of saying that I use many different types of therapeutic approaches to help clients through their problems in relationships. Gottman method is a type of couples therapy, narrative is telling your story, acceptance and commitment therapy works on accepting how things are (mindfulness) and committing to it (behavioral change strategies) to have psychological flexibility in the relationship. There is no one therapy that is right for everyone.
This is your therapy! And because it is your therapy, I need to hear your story. Narrative therapy lets the client share their story. This ensures that the client is heard, that the therapist understands what is troubling the client, and where those concerns may have come from. This is usually a treatment used at the beginning stages of therapy, but also works its way in while sharing past experiences and we work through conflicts in relationships.
Collaborative couples therapy is a way for the couple and therapist to work together to resolve issues. It takes the arguments that are occurring between couples into conversations and problems into opportunities to learn and grow together as a couple.
I am Level 1 and 2 Gottman Method Trained. I use this method in assessments, how I lead the intake/assessment sessions, and the ways that I teach couples to resolve their problems in therapy and as a resource for future problems are led by research and it is a proven method of helping couples resolve problems. This is a structured method, but it is client led, meaning that what clients come in with each week is how we decide what to focus on, teach, and learn from.
Working with couples to help them get through their problems by having them talk with one another instead of talking to me brings the therapy back to them and lets them lead the . I believe that in order to get through the issues that couples are having, that we must sort through why they are important to each partner and understand its place in the relationship. Couples counseling is a working together as a couple with the counselor to understand and resolve problems.
Are you feeling disconnected from each other now that you have children? Is all your time being spent on the kids? Do you feel like you can’t get on the same page in how you want to raise the kids? Parenting is hard work and its adds to the life you once led as a couple. These are common issues parents have whether they are living together or divorced/separated. I’d like to help you learn to manage these conflicts and difficulties, so that you can raise happier, healthier children, together.
Do you find yourself going out but having trouble meeting new people? Have you been in relationships but they don’t work out? Do you feel like you are never going to meet the right person? With the new ways of meeting people, do you feel like you are just an option or place holder until something better comes along? Are you feeling unwanted, not good enough, or like something is wrong with you because you can’t find someone while everyone around you has someone? I'm here to help!
Are you feeling lost, confused, not sure what your next step is? Do you want to try to work on this with your partner? Do you want help healing from the pain this is causing you? THIS IS SO HARD- BUT I’VE GOT YOU. First, I want you to know that it isn’t your fault, you didn’t cause this; this isn’t a flaw with you or your partner. There is something that caused it. We need to figure that out,address it, avoid placing blame and and shaming so we might be able to prevent it from happening again.