The journey is never quite what we imagined it would be and settling into that reality gracefully is tricky.
Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Santa Fe, NM
Throughout my career as a therapist I have come alongside clients who are at the beginning and end of things such as marriage, divorce, child birth, career changes, moves and end of life. Often we find ourselves paralyzed, frozen and unable to function as we once had during large transitions. Through a lens of self compassion and our own attachment history, side by side we can help you find a clear path forward.
The lens I primarily work through his one based on Attachment theory, which states that we develop patterns of attachment through our early relationships with our parents and later relationships with partners. Once we can clearly identify this pattern, we can unlock the underlying stress and pain within the relationship and have more authentic and clear conversations about what is going on and how to move forward.
Through use of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, we can take a deep look at where your anxiety is coming from and once this is established can use specific behavioral techniques to work to reduce the symptoms and create a meaningful life where you are living aligned with your internal values.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) is a mindfully-oriented behavioral therapy that uses an eclectic and humanistic approach to help people work through their internal struggles. Most approaches operate within the idea that there is a normal way to react to discomfort. ACT accepts the so-called ‘abnormality’ is part of the human experience and emphasizes that lasting change comes through acceptance of this so process so we can develop behavioral techniques to move forward.
Emotionally focused therapy explores current and past relationships through an attachment lens with the goal of helping individuals and couples identify and work within their own attachment style, needs and fears to develop skills they need to have meaningful and lasting relationships..
Attachment theory is a concept in developmental psychology that identifies that early relationships/attachments guide how we as humans connect to other humans throughout our life. And once these internal patterns can be identified we can work within them and we can have less conflict within relationship, less struggle during transitions and a greater understanding of how to ask for what we need.