Adi Elinoff (he/him)

With lived non monogamous experience and training in kink and sex therapy, I offer support that truly understands poly and ENM relationships. I am aware of how bias shows up in therapy and work intentionally to avoid it. Together we explore communication, boundaries, jealousy, and the emotional realities of multi partner dynamics. My goal is to help you create relationship structures that feel secure, transparent, and aligned with the way you want to love and connect.

I help partners slow down and understand what is happening beneath the surface of their conflicts so change feels possible rather than exhausting. Using Gottman tools and a solutions focused approach, we work on building emotional safety, repairing after conflict, and breaking patterns that no longer support the relationship. You will leave sessions with clear skills and a deeper understanding of how to relate in ways that feel more grounded, honest, and supportive for both of you.

ACT guides much of my work because it helps clients understand their emotions, identify the patterns that keep them stuck, and take values-aligned action. I use ACT to help individuals and partners build awareness, shift out of rigid thinking, and make meaningful behavioral changes. ACT is especially helpful for clients who want practical tools that create change both inside and outside the therapy room.

I am Gottman Level 2 certified and rely on Gottman tools to give couples practical, evidence-based skills they can use right away. I integrate interventions that strengthen communication, improve conflict repair, and build shared meaning. Gottman gives clients clear steps, not vague advice, and I use it to help couples replace unhelpful patterns with healthier, more supportive ways of relating.

My work is strongly grounded in EFT because it helps couples understand the emotional patterns that drive their conflict. I use EFT to slow down reactive cycles and help partners see the deeper needs and fears underneath their arguments. This approach allows couples to reconnect in a way that feels safe, honest, and emotionally meaningful. EFT is one of my core orientations because it creates real, lasting relationship change.

Sex and intimacy can get stuck for a lot of reasons: mismatched desire, avoidance, pressure, pain, performance anxiety, porn-related conflict, or conversations that never go anywhere. I offer couples sex therapy to help you talk about sex clearly, reduce shame, and rebuild a physical connection that feels mutually wanted. We focus on practical tools for communication, consent and boundaries, and creating a sex life that actually fits your relationship, not a script you feel like you’re failing.