Savvy, Gay, Third-culture Latin@ Therapist with a keen eye for detail, warm, caring heart, and a no-non-sense approach toward healing.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in SAN FRANCISCO, CA
Grief is a common symptom of feeling unwelcome, and when ignored, can grow to an all consuming and debilitating existence. Troublesome thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations feed unhealthy practices like sex, substance, and food addictions, cutting people out of our lives, self bashing and defeating thoughts that keep us small, and conflict with others. Loneliness and grief show up as physical symptoms and share the same receptors as pain. Shame and loneliness are literally painful.
Identity is complex and layered. The more identities we identify with, the more we can be vulnerable to and feel subjected to external forces and pressures dictating our lives, feelings, behaviors, and forms of self understanding and expression. Learning to recognize the external influences that surround us, and the internal ways in which we may have aligned with them, can gift us the ability to exercise our power of choice and empower us to seek healthy alliances and recognize healthy spaces.
Traumatic events and chronic experiences can lead to feeling uneasy most if not all of the time. Our inner sense of safety is rattled, shattered, and becomes recalibrated to a heightened state of emotional, mental, and physical arousal, requiring us to expend more energy than otherwise would be needed to return to a state of wellbeing. Trauma informed psychotherapy increases awareness and brings peace and ease to the whole being through consistent, caring, and attentive healing practices.
Through EMDR I support you in reprocessing troubling past experiences, leading to a reduction or extinction of uncomfortable symptoms resulting from survival mechanisms that served us well at the time, yet have become a hinderance in our present day-to-day lived experience. Just as our body naturally heals from a cut or a wound, our psyche posses the same mechanism if we can just get out of our own way, allowing it to find its way back to a relaxed and peaceful state.
In my work I feel it is important to explore how our past experiences, specially our first years of life, set a pattern of relating to ourselves and others. However, through caring, curious, and nurturing relationships, we can gain a sense of connection and wellbeing when in relationship with others. Looking at our lives from a developmental perspective shines light on the places that had left us stuck and unable to claim the life want. Learning how we were wired helps us re-wire ourselves anew.
Our bodies are a wealth of information, communicating messages between brain, gut, and heart, and when we learn to tap into this highway of sensations, we can lead a fuller, healthier life; an embodied life. Learning how to listen and respond to messages coming through sensations- gut feelings, knee jerk impulses, butterflies in your stomach, leads you to be able to affect your emotional and mental states, bringing about change, integration, and growth; expanding your sources of information.