Hi, I'm Randi and I am passionate about supporting others through their difficulties and sharing in their growth.
Licensed Professional Counselor in Texas
Couples therapy is often thought of as a last-ditch effort to save a relationship, and while that is sometimes the case, seeking relationship counseling does not mean that your relationship is doomed. Taking the step of asking for help means that you and your partner want your relationship to be strong and fulfilling. Regardless of how far along you are in your relationship, having the support of a counselor to help navigate the inevitable ups and downs of a relationship can be very beneficial.
Depression can show up in many ways, not just the stereotypical version of a person that can't get out of bed. We can lose motivation and lack desire to connect with others, which leads to isolation, which leads to even deeper depression. If you have suffered, or are suffering with depression, it can feel like a hopeless black hole that you will never get out of. There is no magic cure, but there are definitely ways to climb out of the hole and I want to tell you about them!
Have you ever felt completely crazy in an intimate relationship? What about feeling that intimate relationships aren't that important because you can take care of yourself and others just complicate things? These feelings are often a result of an insecure attachment style. Identifying the ins and outs of secure vs. insecure attachment can provide great clarity and understanding of our behaviors and the great news is, we can heal from insecure attachment wounds by forming secure attachments.
From the day we are born, we begin to connect to our caregivers and learn quickly in what ways we are supported and offered love. Even if our caretakers had the best of intentions, we can often develop an insecure attachment style which informs the way we interact with the world. If we can start to better understand our behaviors in relationships through this lens, we can begin to demystify some of the unhealthy patterns in our lives.
I believe each person is a unique blend of experiences, thoughts, and feelings, therefore it’s important to challenge the outside messages we receive and refocus our views to what we believe to be meaningful. Additionally, living a meaningful life does not mean we are always happy—it means we can accept that there will be struggles and upsets and, in spite of those inevitabilities, we have the capacity to manage the discomfort and embrace the joyful moments as often as we can.
Most of us know that relationships take work, but what we don’t often know is how much work. Strong and loving relationships take skills a lot of us haven’t been taught. We don’t get an intimate relationship class in school and, oftentimes, the examples we see in our real lives aren’t exactly the blueprint we want to repeat for ourselves. The good news is, we are never too far along to learn those skills and make changes to the ways we connect with one another if we are committed to doing so.