EMDR was originally designed to treat PTSD, but now it is used for a range of diagnosis and presenting symptoms. Through the use of eye movements or bilateral stimulation, such as tapping or sounds, clients are able to access memories without fully reexperiencing the trauma. I feel that this is a compassionate and effective way to move clients forward in their healing and reduce their guilt and shame. I am trained in EMDR and am participating in consultation through EMDR Consulting.
Life transitions of any kind are filled with uncertainty, and they often bring up past memories and experiences. So often we react to not only the present moment, but past experiences as well. All colored by our internal beliefs about ourselves and the world. Understanding and processing those beliefs and reactions helps to build self compassion and resilience for future life transitions.
"Our worth and our belonging are not negotiated with other people" Brené Brown I value building self esteem through the unburdening of shame and guilt, and increasing confidence in setting boundaries with self and others. We often make ourselves smaller to make other people more comfortable. While this often comes from a loving place or a previous way to survive or get needs met, it often leads us feeling overwhelmed, resentful, and small. We can start to make our own needs a priority as well.
I utilize a blend of boundary setting techniques and EMDR therapy to address historical and intergenerational trauma. Survival instincts and ways of coping are often passed down in a family system, even if they don't always serve the present moment. Understanding why we react to certain situations, and why others may react, can increase compassion. Once we have cultivated that compassion we can articulate and implement boundaries from a place of acceptance and respect.