Fey Shreefter (they/them)

My work integrates relational psychotherapy, attachment-based approaches, and somatic techniques, with a strong focus on how relationships shape emotion, behavior, and regulation. In couples work, we pay close attention to what happens in real time between you. We may slow interactions down, track moments of misunderstanding, and explore how cycles of conflict or withdrawal take shape. Much of my role is helping translate each partner’s inner logic so that new understanding becomes possible. I work with monogamous and non-monogamous couples, and I work with a wide range of relational agreements, gender identities, sexual orientations, and neurodivergent styles of relating. I have particular experience with jealousy, mismatched desire, power differences, and difficulty repairing after rupture. Rather than following a formula, I adapt the work to what is most alive and workable in the moment, helping couples build new capacities for communication, accountability, and repair.

I see couples therapy as a space where careful attention, curiosity, and honest relationship can gradually change what feels possible between two people. Most relational problems, in my view, are not about who is “right,” but about how protection, fear, and misunderstanding slowly organize the relationship. I’m especially interested in how people learn to protect themselves, how those protections collide in intimate relationships, and how new experiences of being seen, heard, and held accountable can reorganize connection over time. This includes working thoughtfully with neurodivergence, gender diversity, asexual and demisexual identities, and the many ways people build intimacy outside traditional models. I aim to offer couples a space that is non-shaming, non-punitive, and emotionally rigorous. Therapy works best, for me, when it feels relational and alive — a place where responsibility and compassion, honesty and care, difference and connection can coexist.