Emily Flato, PsyD, Psychologist  in California

Emily Flato

PsyD
Accepting Clients

I support neurodivergent adults with assessment-informed therapy, specializing in ADHD/autism, addiction, trauma, and codependency.

Psychologist in California

Services
  • Individual
  • Couples

About My Clients

I work with adults who are neurodivergent—or suspect they may be—and feel burned out, overwhelmed, or stuck in patterns that no longer work. Many were diagnosed with ADHD or autism later in life or spent years masking, over-functioning, or self-blaming. Clients often notice repeated relationship patterns, shutdown under stress, or coping strategies that once helped but now lead to exhaustion, avoidance, or substance use.

My Background and Approach

I use a psychodynamic lens to explore the roots of distress, including how early relational experiences and recurring patterns shape current reactions. My integrative approach draws from CBT and ACT to shift unhelpful thought patterns, DBT to support emotion regulation and communication, and Motivational Interviewing to support change without pressure or shame. I work with individuals and couples struggling with relationship concerns, maladaptive coping patterns, and self-criticism. Therapy is trauma-informed, collaborative, and relational, focused on building insight and practical tools for lasting change. Many clients notice increased clarity and relief within the first few sessions. In my work with couples, I also incorporate Gottman Method Couples Therapy.

My Personal Beliefs and Interests

I believe therapy should feel steady, respectful, and nonjudgmental—especially for those who have felt misunderstood by providers or systems in the past. I don’t believe people need to be fixed. I believe meaningful change comes from understanding an issue at its core, finding the right tools and resources, and learning how to sustain that change over time. I believe anyone can grow into the best version of themselves when they are supported with clarity, compassion, and practical guidance.

Techniques I Use

Specialties
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
Other Techniques
  • Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
  • Addiction Counseling
  • Anger Management Therapy
  • Attachment Theory
  • Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
  • Couples Counseling
  • Culturally Sensitive Therapy
  • Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
  • Gottman Method Couples Therapy
  • Harm Reduction Therapy
  • Motivational Interviewing
  • Psychodynamic Therapy
  • Trauma Therapy
  • Relationship Counseling

Issues I Treat

Specialties
Addiction ADHD Therapists Autism Spectrum Disorder
Other Issues
  • Addiction
  • ADHD Therapists
  • Aging Concerns
  • Anger Issues
  • Anxiety
  • Attachment
  • Autism Spectrum Disorder
  • Body Image Issues
  • Burnout
  • Codependency
  • Depression
  • Family Conflict
  • Gambling Addiction
  • Grief or Loss
  • Historical/ Intergenerational Trauma
  • Immigration/Acculturation
  • Insomnia
  • Marriage Counseling
  • Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self-Esteem
  • Women's Issues
Insurance Plans Accepted
  • Aetna
  • Cigna
  • Blue Shield of California
  • Anthem Blue Cross Medical
  • Quest Behavioral Health
I offer online counseling in the following states:

At A Glance

  • Experience: 1 year of practice
  • Languages: English, 中文 (普通话)
  • Rate: $150 - 200/session

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