About My Clients
I work with people who are over-achievers and over-givers. These are strategies we use to feel needed, to ensure a sense of belonging. But the price we pay for these behaviors is high. When our value is determined by winning the approval of others, it's always precarious - because people are moody and difficult.
My Background and Approach
Imagine being able to focus inward, on what YOU feel and need, and making choices based on your own wellbeing. At first it might feel scary to imagine disappointing others. But over time, you might discover a deep sense of trust in yourself - no longer betraying yourself to avoid causing distress for someone else. You might come to really love the person who listens deeply to you and honors your feelings and needs. This is how I define self esteem - that experience of really loving yourself because you are always kind, understanding, forgiving and compassionate with yourself.
My Personal Beliefs and Interests
It's really hard to be a human being. We are socialized to go against ourselves, to hide ourselves, to be hard on ourselves in order to belong to family and tribe. But until you really belong to yourself, you can't fully belong to anyone else. Parts of you will always be hidden or distorted. I would love to help you discover how to belong to yourself first, and then find people who love and accept you as you truly are.