In therapy, we'll untangle all of it together - the messy, the transcendent, the light and the dark - and chart a path toward healing.
Marriage and Family Therapist Associate in Portland, OR
Supervised by Jessica Thomas, PhD, LMFT
Sometimes it feels like there is no shortage of things that can make us feel disconnected from our partners. Therapy is a great place to navigate some of those circumstances together, and restore connection and trust. My training and experience is in the field of marriage & family therapy, and I come from an attachment and emotion-focused perspective to help clients learn more about their unique dance together & their patterns of attachment, and build or restore greater intimacy and connection.
Anxiety is part of a healthy nervous system response, but it can become chronic and overwhelming, especially in our world today. Whether it's anxiety about events in our larger culture and communities, overwhelm about the pace of life and day-to-day responsibilities, anxiety about your place in the world, or a combination of factors, it can be challenging to navigate. I have worked with many clients who are looking for better ways to cope with, understand, or work to resolve their anxiety.
I utilize parts work and aspects of IFS extensively in my work. We all contain multitudes, as the saying goes. Our inner protectors can use a variety of tactics to keep us safe, but these can often cause us trouble in other ways. In therapy we work to bring insight and voice to those multitudes we contain within us, and we also, importantly, work to build a stronger connection to your core self to allow you more agency to take back the reins and develop self-trust.
In my work I am always paying attention to the emotional processes and experiences that are occurring in the room, often under the surface, particularly when they arise in our closest relationships. We all have attachment patterns that can cause us to miss each other on an emotional level, and a big part of couples therapy is bringing those patterns into our conscious awareness and help us learn to meet each other's and our own needs more effectively, for a closer relationship.
Attachment theory is my main theoretical orientation and informs most of the work I do. I believe that we are all wired for connection and need it for survival - as a result, our relationships are essential, yet we often have relational wounds that can make it hard for us to connect, all the way down to the nervous system level. As such, it is central to our well-being to be able to explore and understand our patterns and learn to attend to those deep needs.
Are you navigating the ways your attachment style leads you to show up in relationships, and how you relate to your community and your world? My work is firmly rooted in attachment theory and works to integrate your work in therapy with your nervous system, and support you in building more self-understanding and self-compassion, and to heal and grow beyond the attachment wounds you may be carrying.
Spiritual and religious abuse can be incredibly destabilizing. The process of healing from these wounds can be ongoing, yet it offers a unique opportunity to deconstruct and externalized imposed beliefs, develop your own identity, connect with your intuition, reclaim an authentic spirituality or navigate questions about meaning and purpose, and restore self-trust and discernment. I support clients who are in the rebuilding phase after religious, spiritual, or cultic abuse.