“Swoon” Show Notes: Episode #87 – Vision of Love: Creating a meaningful shared vision as a couple
Jeff Guenther, LPC on Nov 15, 2020 in Swoon
So many couples are coasting or going through the motions right now. This week, Julie and Gina talk about not only making sure you are on the same page with your partner, but also how to get clear about what you both want and then move toward that shared vision.
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This episode covers:
- How to create a shared vision in your relationship
- The ways our wants and needs (and relationships) change over time
- The importance of dreaming together
- How vulnerable it is to name what we want
- How to feel more inspired in your relationship (and your life)
- The importance of accountability when moving toward your goals
- Gina and Julie's new offering – Sparkle!
Memorable quotes
“2020 has thrown people for so many loops, I'm talking with a lot of couples who are like, 'What are we doing? We need to regroup.'”
“Over time our wants and needs change. It's important to revisit and see if we are on the same page in terms of what we want.”
“2020 has been about 'make it work' but that is not where we feel inspired, alive, juicy or turned on.”
“We put a lot of energy into getting into a relationship. We spend a lot of energy planning the day to mark our union. There isn't always a roadmap for what we do next.”
“The milestones make up maybe 10% of our life on this planet. How do you want to feel during your day to day?”
“How do you want to feel when you wake up next to this person?”
“The dreaming part is important, and then when we know that, then we get to get clear about the systems or behaviors or habits we need to put in place to create and live that vision.”
“The more clarity you have about what you want, the more clearly you can build it.”
“In a happy, loving, connected relationship, we are still individuals. We may have different desires. The more I know about my partner's vision and desires, the more I can support and encourage that.”
“One of the most vulnerable acts we can take is naming something that is meaningful to us or something that we want.”
“This is an opportunity to revisit the ideas of who our partner is. It's a chance to be really honest about where we are and what we want at this stage.”
“Sometimes we censor our dreams before we even share that vulnerable possibility with our partner.”
“Just because we are dreaming it doesn't mean we are committed to it.”
Resources from the Podcast
Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021
“Swoon” Episode #42 – What Are You Doing New Year's Eve? Starting the Year in Love
The Desire Map: A Guide to Creating Goals with Soul
Action Steps
Join us at our new event, Sparkle: A Relationship Refresh for 2021
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Your Swoon hosts
Gina Senarighi, MS, MA, CPC is a sexuality counselor and communication consultant specializing in healthy boundaries, passionate relationships, jealousy, and infidelity. She supports non-traditional couples all over the world as a retreat leader and certified relationship coach.
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Julie Jeske, LPC is a sex and relationship counselor. She has a private practice where she helps clients increase intimacy, ignite passion and deepen their connection to themselves and others. Julie especially loves to help women discover who they are sexually. Through counseling, online classes, or in-person retreats; her clients learn how to talk about their sexual and relationship desires, and explore ways to make them a reality.
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