Couples Counseling

I will work with you to bring hopefulness, emotional connection, healthy communication, and spark back into your life. We will work together to develop a plan to build your strongest relationship. Family counseling may include 2 or more family members to help heal relationships, open lines of communication, and learn new coping strategies.

I have many years of experience with pre-maritial/marital couples, who are experiencing difficulty with common issues such as: building intimacy, communicating in a healthy way, letting go of old resentments, and getting into the habit of living their lives in a parallel way. Once couples learn a certain "dance" of how they engage in routine patterns, it's quite difficult to break out of it. These patterns of our unique "dance" is what we will address in couples counseling.

When we fight with our partners, it feels like there is something else under the surface. Fights are like icebergs, some of it may be visible, but there may be deeper reasons. My goal is to help you and your partner express your true feelings and needs in a healthy manner, which lie beneath the surface. I will help you discover the cycle you are both stuck in, what you each contribute, and how you can each be your true selves. With this we can come to the best outcome for the relationship.

In couples counseling, I create a space for both of you to be heard and understood. I see your relationship as my client, and I'm here to facilitate growth in your bond. We'll explore communication patterns, uncover hidden strengths, and tackle challenges as a team. Every relationship has its ups and downs, but it's how we navigate through them that really counts. Let’s work together to cultivate a relationship filled with understanding, respect, and love.

The heart of what I do is support couples and relationships in our community. Couples and intimate partners all have patterns in the way that they relate based on their early attachment histories. What this means is that when we get into relationship, we might find ourselves having the same argument about the dishes that doesn't actually feel like it is about the dishes. What I'm interested in helping you do is get to the heart of the matter and communicate about it together.

As human beings, we need relationships to survive. But relationships are also very difficult! Our practice focuses on helping our clients build thriving relationships and increase meaningful connection in their lives. Our co-owners, Paul & Kaitlin Kindman are both Level Two PACT Therapists (Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy) who specialize in helping couples to deepen intimacy, security, and contentment in their relationship and repair ruptures and betrayals.

I help many couples either stay together or peaceful separate. My background is in Marriage and Family therapy, however as a Clinical Counselor and I can help you with your relationship.

Looking at the pictures on the wall, you ask yourself, "what happened to us?" You feel like you have to do everything yourself...you're all alone. You ask for help but are told you're nagging. You carefully choose your words and still get it wrong. It's like you are having the same argument OVER and OVER, with nothing getting solved. Even though you love your partner, sometimes you don't like them. You don't want your relationship to end, but you're stuck. I can help you find each other again.

Couples counseling can be a lifeline, providing the guidance and support you need to get back on track and feel closer to your partner. It's an investment in your future happiness and well-being as a couple. Don't be afraid to take the first step and ask for support. You deserve to have the love and connection you want and deserve.

One plus one equals three. Two individuals, plus one relationship.

As a licensed Marriage Family therapist, I received masters level training in couples counseling. I also worked at several domestic violence shelters and facilitated batterer's intervention programs, where I taught about "healthy relationships" and how to have a relationship based in respect. Since that time, I have studied the Gottman method. I am most interested in helping couples use mindfulness and positive communication strategies to build a better relationship.

Couples may struggle with a variety of issues from communication, to conflict resolution to sexual desire discrepancy to betrayal. I am passionate about helping couples hear each other, manage disagreements and atone for betrayal. I can help couples rediscover the love and desire they had for their partner and to reconnect. Let's explore ways to be intentional about your relationship, to prioritize the pleasure, passion and play in your relationships and your lives!

In relationship counseling with me, you and your partner(s) will have the opportunity to learn new communication skills while deepening your emotional bond and securing your attachment with one another. I primarily use Emotionally-Focused Therapy techniques, which ask you to tune into your emotions in the present moment in order to shift your relationship cycle. I also use Gottman Method techniques, which teach you concrete ways to communicate differently with one another.

Every couple faces challenges, but with the right guidance, these can be opportunities for growth. At Relationships For Better, our couples counseling focuses on fostering open communication, understanding, and trust. We provide tools and techniques to help partners reconnect, resolve conflicts, and build a stronger foundation for their shared future.

Being in an intimate relationship can be unsettling and it often stirs up old wounds that we carry. Yet relationships can also be filled with joy, adventure and deep connection. The good news is that you get to make the rules! Whether you are looking for stronger connection with your partner, a way to co-parent while living apart, or navigating a way to amiably separate, my role as a couples counselor is to cultivate an environment where all feel welcomed to express their deepest truth.

I have years of developed expertise in couples therapy. I integrate research from the field with clinical knowledge to create individualized plans for each couple. I pull from the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, Integrative Behavioral Couples Therapy, and Attachment Theory.

Couples therapy is focused on the relationship. Each partner is asked to own their contribution to the current state of their shared struggle, while working to build more honest, intimate, and beneficial communication skills. This growth stems from risking vulnerability, learning to sit with discomfort, minimizing reactivity, self-soothing, and a sincere desire to listen and grow. As couples therapy requires time and commitment. To fascinate this growth, we meet weekly in 75- minute sessions.

Couples Counseling is a wonderful way to bring increased intimacy and improved communication to any relationship. Expressing boundaries, healing from past issues and moving forward to a future with shared goals are all part of the journey. I believe that every couple can improve their overall relationship satisfaction through counseling.

You’re here for a reason. Maybe there’s an inability to communicate, an affair/infidelity, sexual issues or monotony in the relationship. Whatever the case, you know things can be better. Using the best of Emotional Focused Therapy (EFT) and Gottman Method, I help couples not only reconnect but create a relationship that’s better than before. Reach out via phone or email. Availability is limited. I also provide Christian Counseling for couples who desire faith integration.