Hi, my name is Sophia Lou O'Connor. I am a doctoral-level sex and relationship therapist based out of Denver and Boulder.
Sex Therapist in Denver, CO
I am formally trained in Attachment informed therapy: A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy® (PACT), developed by Dr. Stan Tatkin, is a fusion of attachment theory, developmental neuroscience, and arousal regulation. PACT has a reputation for effectively treating the most challenging couples.
In this method, we work together to gain a better understanding of your existing narratives of self (stories about who you are), which are often outdated and ineffective. Often our stories are heavily impacted by our history and current political climate, whether or not we are aware of it. Together, we can empower you toward the redevelopment and recreation of your storylines about yourself and your life. Your new narrative will emphasize the qualities you most value in yourself and give you the
Our experiences are shaped by our social identities and the society we live in. Our emotional and attachment experiences are no exception to this truth. Mental and sexual health is a social justice issue and I believe that culturally sensitive psychotherapy is paramount to effective therapy. I routinely check-in on how your identities and mine might be shaping the dialogue and bringing awareness to the ways in which this might be playing into our work together.
I believe that monogamy is not a relationship structure that meets the needs for every couple. I can help my clients either open their relationship or strengthen their practice of ethical non-monogamy. I am a big advocate for laying solid foundations so that you and your partner(s) can enjoy a healthy, joyous, and pleasurable relationship whatever the constellation is.
Forge tighter, closer relationships by creating trust and safety Learn to talk about common points of conflict i.e. money, sex, intimacy, infidelity, children, family, etc. without escalating into fights Build a closer, deeper connection through the willingness to be vulnerable Improve general communication by better listening with more empathy and care about the other Learn to discuss problems without falling into a negative cycle Learn to communicate from an emotionally vulnerable place
Shame around kink/fetishes Coming out/changing identity Orgasm problems (too much/too many/ not enough/not at all) Desire & libido difficulties Lack of knowledge/confidence/skill Explore deeper and more connected sexuality Struggling with sexual confidence/body image Concerns around porn consumption/seeing sex workers/ attending sex parties/hook-up sex Exploring troublesome turn-ons & turn-offs