I believe that people (especially you) deserve to be empowered, live a life with more peace, and be authentically your best version of you.
Counselor in Bluffton, SC
I have been practicing meditation for about 10 years, and I can personally attest to the benefits of a mindfulness-based practice. I have also studied and taken various mindfulness and meditation courses and seminars, as well as received certificates for its application. I typically utilize mindfulness-based therapy with clients who are experiencing anxiety symptoms. There are, however, a few misconceptions. You do not need to meditate to have a mindfulness-based practice. If you do meditate. You will think. A lot. It's normal. It means you're alive. If you fall asleep, it's ok. You can be mindful while you eat, walk, or sit on the beach. There's no set time limit. And mindfulness is not a cure all. I have found that it has been beneficial with clients suffering with anxiety (not trauma related), ADHD, and grief. I'm excited to continue to following research and taking classes to increase my knowledge and in turn better help my clients.
As a marriage and family therapist I have been, and continue to be, trained to explore the dynamics of a client's family, and to see the client as part of a bigger system. And despite its name, I use a family systems mindset when working with individuals. In short, we all play a part within our family. Don't believe me. Many clients have expressed regressing to their childhood ways during occasions of anxiety...like holidays spent with the family. Taking a step back we see how one person affects the entire system, and how the entire system affects the one person. Within our families we learned our roles, family rules, and expectations. In forming relationships with others we are bringing what we've learned from our family with the anticipation of the same response. Meanwhile, the other person is doing the same thing. Hello miscommunications, anxiety, and frustration. Family systems helps us work through those sticky parts and recognize our part in the relationship dynamic.
Hello anxiety…ole friend. You tell yourself to stop worrying, or take a deep breath, but it doesn't help. You're mentally fatigued, overwhelmed, frustrated, and unable to move forward. Unfortunately anxiety is not simply remedied by the well-intentioned suggestion to ”just relax”. But wouldn’t that be nice… Anxiety is one of the main reasons many of my clients seek therapy. My clients have taught me that there are numerous ways to describe and feel anxiety – no two clients seem to have the same experience even if their situations are nearly identical. And spoiler alert…my clients and I have also discovered that befriending the parts of anxiety that benefit us (yes, they do exist) actually help us to “ride the wave” of unhelpful anxiety. The main takeaway is that you don’t have to continue to suffer or to push through alone…there’s help available so that you are able find more ease in your life.
Life transitions…we all go through them (yay and sigh), and many of my clients report difficulty navigating the tangled web of mixed feelings. How is it that something so good can conjure up feelings of anxiety, frustration, overwhelm, or stress? And how is it that something so bad or icky can conjure feelings of relief? How do you tackle such a conundrum? Yep, I’ve been there too. Along the way I’ve found that the process of working through or into a life transition is different each one of my clients (and me too). The good news… there are manageable ways to navigate and make sense of your unique situation.