Do you feel like your spinning plates are wobbling or falling? I can help you feel like you can pause to breathe, without dropping it all.
Social Worker in Portland, OR
Anxiety takes the sticky parts of our brain and turns it up to 11. If it feels like the brain is acting like a sticky fly trap of scary thoughts, endless what-ifs, or replaying that one time, you are not alone. Sometimes brains are like that. We can work together to turn the brain's worry-meter down to a place where it isn't just warning lights flashing.
If it feels like the smile is forced, the shame is insurmountable, and bed is the best place to be, let's talk. Feeling flat, numb, or like you would rather crawl under the bed than face another day does not have to be the rest of your life.
My goal is to help parents build secure attachments with their children and find positive, nurturing ways to raise their small humans. I work with parents who have the deck stacked against them, either because their own childhood didn't model safe and secure parenting, or because the children they are raising had traumatic and attachment-breaking experiences. I specifically work with foster and adoptive parents on attachment and taking care of themselves while parenting a traumatized child.
What happened to us? Why do we do that? Why is my brain telling me that? From each experience, we tell a story and make meaning. Eventually, our stories repeat themselves. We have the stories that repeat through life and become our identity as a family member, friend, employee, or student. Sometimes the stories are told to us, beginning in childhood. Narrative therapy lets us examine our stories and retell them as the narrator with many stories rather than as the passive listener.
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy is my favorite technique for feeling like we can be who we truly are, without being yanked around by outside forces. It can help reduce negative feelings and reactions even when our circumstances can't or won't change. Instead of constantly fighting our thoughts and feelings, we can notice them without them controlling our choices.