I love it when people figure out how to feel better. I see myself as someone who guides people to living happier, fuller lives.
Marriage & Family Therapist in Stamford, CT
Humans have this habit of feeling comfortable when they are pretty sure of the outcome. The unknown is scary due to its lack of predictability. So we tend to get into patterns of interaction with the people in our lives, based on what seems like it works. Until it doesn't, and then we get stuck. But there is hope! Patterns of interaction are changeable, meaning you have the power to change the way you interact with others, which often leads to helping those others create new ways of interacting
All behavior is learned, which means it can be unlearned. We only know what we know, which is what we saw modeled by adults in our lives when we were children. These models showed us the way that human adults behave and interact. And when we become adults, and meet up with other adults, who had different models, sometimes the way we do business doesn't match up. Improving relationships happens when we address these differences.
Many clients come into therapy feeling like they are on an emotional rollercoaster, not knowing that their thoughts are fueling that process. The good news is, you can train your brain! Our thoughts happen so fast, that we often don't even realize we are having them. Paying attention to our thoughts every time we have an emotional response allows us to recognize the negative thoughts (and positive ones) that are setting the stage for our emotional states.
Fifty minutes once a week to sit down and reflect on the ways in which you contribute to the things that are keeping you stuck. In individual therapy, you work one on one with me on the things that you are dissatisfied with. Together, we map out a plan to help you move from point A to point B and ultimately, feel better.
Family therapy is where we get to the root of a problem, that everyone is a part of. No particular member of the family is the cause of the problem because it is a system, with many moving parts. Its just stuck. Family therapy can be helpful when there are changes happening and the old ways in which the family worked before, aren't working any more.
Couples therapy is for people who are unhappy in the current state of their relationship. In this work, we figure out how to get on the same page, together. The work of couples lies in building communication and resolving conflicts. The therapist has no allegiance or vested interest in either party and acts as a reflective sounding board to help couples see what they don't see. Together, we identify where the problems lie, put everything out on the table, and find common solutions.