Hello! People with a trauma history may find these times extra challenging, so please have self-compassion and increase self-care. It helps!
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Carmichael, CA
This is how we do relationships - do we have a secure or insecure attachment style? Did we grow up feeling safe, secure, seen, heard, with lots of parental attuement? People will vary greatly in this, and the type of attachment style you have dictates the way it is treated. These can be understood and changed in order to have healthier relationships.
This is a " third wave" CBT Approach which adds in Mindfulness and takes away the focus on stopping thoughts. It's a more gentle way to regard your mind and how you interact with it. This can be helpful for those without a significant trauma background, for anxiety and depression.
I use a process called Natural Processing, which combines Somatic Experiencing with Bilateral Stimulation (EMDR). Always working within the Window of Tolerance assures that processing can happen and resilience builds. Using a Polyvagal perspective, my clients learn about their Autonomic Nervous System, their biology, and how it has come to be conditioned. They learn how to understand and move between states.
The biological reasons for PTSD are known and understood, which allows for great success to treating it. It doesn't always come from huge events like war, it can come from an abusive relationship or an auto accident, many things can create traumatic memories. Working with the body, watching resilience carefully, can help the mind reframe emotional memories.
I work with this as more of an outcome of inadequate parenting, and the issues that arise from that. Codependence is relational, not always related to addiction, and can be overcome with education and practice.
Attachment style is fluid throughout the lifespan, it can be repaired, and will vary depending on the relationship. It is possible to become your own secure base and have healthy relationships.