Monte Miller

Our thoughts lead to emotions. We are not helpless victims to our emotions. Yes, some are wired to just be more emotional, depressed, or anxious. But as rational intelligent humans, we have more power in us than we realize. We all have numerous, and often conflicting different voices in our head. However, we are not often fully aware of all of our automatic thoughts and assumptions that end up guiding our emotions in a negative manner. A therapist can help uncover these thoughts.

Carl Rogers taught us to value the client, not to look down on them like idiots who do not know what is going on in their own life. Therapists should collaborate with the client with sincere respect. One of the chief cornerstones is genuineness with the client. A sincere relationship, not just a simple paid cold-hearted client.

Coaching focuses on helping clients stay motivated in pursuit of a specific future goal. Need to help my clients explore and navigate the tough waters of their sexuality, the relationships and their inner self. Encouragement and focus on one's strengths is paramount. A trained psychologist can make an even better coach, understanding the inner workings and fears that can hold us back.

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the emotional waters of getting involved in open relationships. Conquering issues of jealousy and knowing how to, not just battle these fears, but how to use better marital communication to grow the relationship to a deeper and more fulfilling relationship than ever before, is a primary goal for me as a therapist.

I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle ("The LIfestyle") for several years now. I have helped numerous people understand and navigate the

I am a kink friendly therapist with personal experience. I treat anyone’s depression or anxiety, but will not judge you. Areas of focus: Poly/Swinger/BDSM relationships, Sex therapy issues, Infidelity, Impotence, Jealousy, Coaching for lifestyles – You are safe here to let out your most hidden secrets, or problems. Privacy guaranteed. I have first hand, personal experience and knowledge of many sexual issues and kinks. Active in the Swinger and BDSM/kink community.

Having explored several different kinks personally and professionally, I have experience inside the kink world. While I may not personally have preferences for certain kinks (your kink is not my kink), I respect and appreciate what others' may enjoy. The kink world is a highly charged emotional world, one in which a therapist needs to be sensitive.

General marriage counseling is certainly available. Both parties need to feel fully heard and understood. My focus is not to get into big fights but to be Solution Focused Oriented, looking for what is good in the marriage and rekindling the old sparks that help start the relationship.