I am very passionate about working with couples. Whether dating, engaged or married, I love helping couples grow and thrive in relationship.
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in Westlake Village, CA
CBT is often referred to as the Gold Standard and can be found is almost every therapy room. The basis of understanding the connection between our thoughts, our feelings and our actions, I believe, is paramount in making effective and lasting changes in our life.
Whether dating, engaged or married, the Prepare/Enrich assessment offers a clear snapshot of the relationship and quickly pinpoints a relationship's strengths and growth areas allowing the therapy to be tailored to the areas that need the most help. The research based Gottman approach provides concrete tools to help build a strong, loving and emotionally healthy relationship.
CBT has proven effective for decades and is incorporated in almost every therapy room. Understanding how our thoughts drive our feelings and how our feelings impact our behaviors is, I believe, a cornerstone to lasting change. CBT offers structured exercises that help us see what we do and helps us understand why we do it.
Mindfulness is a big buzz word right now but many ask me what it is. Mindfulness is learning to live in the moment, learning how to enjoy what you are experiencing right now. With this approach we can easy anxieties, lessen the effects of depression and calm our anger.
As a strong believer in marriage, I love doing couples counseling. I use a number of approaches including my training in both Gottman and Prepare/Enrich. The results of the Prepare/Enrich assessments help to effectively and quickly pinpoint areas of strength and areas of growth within the marriage and helps to provide a picture of the relationship and where to focus the therapy. Gottman, also researched based provides concrete and effective tools to build a strong and successful marriage.
You just found out. You are probably asking yourself, "How could I have been so stupid?", "How can I ever forgive?", "Do I want to forgive?" Learning that our partner has been unfaithful is devastating. Your heart has been torn in two pieces and you flip flop between sadness and anger. You don't know if you can ever trust anyone again. Whether you decide to stay in the relationship or decide to move on, learning to trust again is hard but with help and guidance you can recover!
If "they" are happy, you're happy. If "they" are upset, you're a mess and feel like you have to "make it all better". Maybe you just can't tolerate the idea of your child(ten) being unhappy. Sound familiar? If so, you might be struggling with co-dependency. Setting emotionally boundaries can be hard and can feel really scary. There are lots of reasons why codependency has ruled your life but with guidance you can learn to set the boundaries that set you free of pain and guilt.
Transition is hard. Whether it's college to career, single to married, married to divorced or empty nest, we all experience transitions throughout our lives. It's okay to feel lost or scared, confused or sad. With experience leading Divorce Care and experience with the Prepare/Enrich assessments for marriage and pre-marital counseling we will work together so that you can achieve the personal growth you are looking for.